Gypsie Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 (edited) I still get so angry when I think about this guy that led me on. We had a great first couple of months. We even went on a away for a weekend together which was his idea and everything. We had fun and he even told our mutual friends that he enjoyed our time away together. All I ever was, was nice to the guy and had always treated him well. Then nothing. He canceled on my three times and never rang when he said he will. Not long after we broke up. Seriously. Why do guys get like that? The guy I met after was also a douche. We had met while out. Then emailing each other every couple of days over Facebook. Afterwards in one of the emails he was going on about some girl he was after and how we should have never hooked up because he had gotten into a fight with her before going there. Seriously? I got rid of him straight after he told me that. I did not want to be kept around for a back up if things don't go well with that girl who is now his girlfriend by the way. Ugh. I was just happy making out with the guy and leaving it at that. He was the one wanting to get my number and add me on Facebook. Then tells me something like that. He even wanted to remain friends but I was like hell no. Hate meeting dickheads. It never seems to work out for me. Don't even get me started on my ex boyfriend before these two. . I can't believe I still meet these type when I am still in my 30s. Wonder where all the nice ones are... Edited February 28, 2012 by Gypsie
starla33 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I just turned 29 and I feel your pain. I'm attractive (have modeled, smart and nerdy) and still I can't find a decent guy and keep meeting douches. I really don't know what it is and it's ridiculous. Maybe it depends where you live as well? I live in a big city and its insanely hard to meet a guy that doesn't have Peter Pan syndrome.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I can't believe I still meet these type when I am still in my 30s. Wonder where all the nice ones are... Who you accept and who you reject is 100% on you. That means it's your responsibility. Look around... the world is full of nice, quality, honest men. Either they don't like you... or you don't like them. Either way it's your job to figure it out.
carhill Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 TBH, seeing that 43 of 72 posts over 3+ years are new threads following a consistent theme, I will decline to try and decode this and encourage sharing this issue with a qualified neutral third party who specializes in helping with such issues. IMO, that is the venue where you will clarify 'why'. Good luck.
SJC2008 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 Where are the nice ones? Right here, wondering where are the woman who will respect a man who does not try to bed her in 3 dates and actually wants to get to know her. You need to find out what type of man is for you. The alpha type, regular men (not alpha but not door mats) or a door mat.
salparadise Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 There are all kinds of people out there––jerks, wonderful people and everything in between. You can't expect everyone to be the best of the best, you have to learn to read people. And when you think you've got a good one you have hold back a bit, protect your heart, until you figure out who they really are. Then instead of saying that everyone you reject, or who rejects you, is a douchbag, why not just chalk it up to incompatibility, say unfortunately it didn't work out, and move on without the judgement and bitterness? You have to be willing to accept a certain amount of risk, rejection, heartbreak and false starts to find someone good for you. That's just life. 1
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