Sophie99 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 ^ *Hot and Cold My first ever boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me around a month ago. He insisted that I had done nothing wrong, and that he just didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. He said I was the sweetest person in the world and would love to remain best friends. Yes, BEST friends. Heres the thing... When I'm around, he sometimes speaks to me briefly, but sometimes doesn't even acknowledge I'm there and flirts with other girls. He says he's not interested in anyone else, which I can believe because he doesn't flirt with anyone in particular, it's ANYONE. (we go to the same school). I can't avoid these situations as they happen in classes and I obviously can't skip class. I'm trying to be as NC as possible to help me move on. So I thought he didn't want to be friends any more, BUT.. While continuing this behaviour in person, he texts me sometimes late at night saying things like "I care about you so so much", "you're my closest friend and the person I trust the most", "I love all my time with you", "I miss you". I'm so confused. What do you think? Is he confused too? Or is he just messing with my head and trying to keep me casing after him? Thank you
Philosoraptor Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 You're his second option right now. Can you accept it? He will move on with someone else and you will be left there in limbo. Being friends helps alleviate guilt. Of course he is confused. You are both kids and still have a lot of growing to do. Take care of yourself now. If his actions are hurting you then block his number or ask him to please not contact you as you need time alone to heal.
Author Sophie99 Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 You're his second option right now. Can you accept it? He will move on with someone else and you will be left there in limbo. Being friends helps alleviate guilt. Of course he is confused. You are both kids and still have a lot of growing to do. Take care of yourself now. If his actions are hurting you then block his number or ask him to please not contact you as you need time alone to heal. Thanks for your advice I just want to stop caring what he does and says, because he obviously doesn't care what I do or say, but I can't
Author Sophie99 Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 You're his second option right now. Can you accept it? He will move on with someone else and you will be left there in limbo. Being friends helps alleviate guilt. Of course he is confused. You are both kids and still have a lot of growing to do. Take care of yourself now. If his actions are hurting you then block his number or ask him to please not contact you as you need time alone to heal. If he texts me, do I just flat out ignore him no matter what? Thanks 1
Philosoraptor Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 If he texts me, do I just flat out ignore him no matter what? Thanks This is your call in the end. If it brings you pain (either responding or if you do not get a response back), then I'd suggest not to respond.
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