Author classic_356 Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 She works, goes to school two nights a week (6 hours), and has internship two days a week (16 hours), she's had this schedule since before we met. Shes very dedicated to school and homework and the internship comes along with that and I know how long it takes to get from A to B and she always leaves at the same time, both going and coming home, is never 'missing' for periods of time and our love life has been as high as it's always been even with her being so pregnant. I know, that's just how I feel. Ex's don't make good friends. There was once a bond there, an attraction and it's not fair to the person on the other side of the relationship. I don't think she is, definitely not physically...it's the emotional part that I wonder about..about whether she will view still e-mailing me even just 'friendly' e-mails as something 'okay. Why is her schedule so hectic? Plenty of time for cheating in a 13 hour day. If you don't do a paternity test on this child before signing paperwork then you are a complete MORON. You would liable for child support for the next 18 years... 18 YEARS... and if the baby isn't yours you won't even get visitation rights... you just PAY EVERY MONTH. If you don't pay... You go to JAIL. All because your too much of a puss to call her out on this bull****. Look, this guy isn't a "friend" he is an EX. She is calling you controlling because she knows how to push you around and manipulate you. I can't say for sure whether she is cheating or not... but for sure I would never put up with this crap! Never!
Author classic_356 Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 Why don't you just be honest with her? You are going to MARRY her, you should be able to talk about ANYTHING. Ask her to see her phone bills, so you can see if he has been in contact with her. Tell her "I'm sorry I'm being so insecure, I know I might sound crazy but I keep having this feeling that...blah blah blah..." I've tried that, but she feels that I ask too much and that I should be worrying about something that's not there and to stop 'inventing things'. I already know she doesn't talk to him on her cell phone, we share the same account and I could check to see if there are texts/calls. That's part of what I meant by at night/weekends it's not like she sneaks off to make calls or texts or won't let me see what she is doing on the computer, I believe (hope) that if something was going on, she'd be doing these things......
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 She works, goes to school two nights a week (6 hours), and has internship two days a week (16 hours), she's had this schedule since before we met. Shes very dedicated to school and homework and the internship comes along with that and I know how long it takes to get from A to B and she always leaves at the same time, both going and coming home, is never 'missing' for periods of time and our love life has been as high as it's always been even with her being so pregnant. I know, that's just how I feel. Ex's don't make good friends. There was once a bond there, an attraction and it's not fair to the person on the other side of the relationship. I don't think she is, definitely not physically...it's the emotional part that I wonder about..about whether she will view still e-mailing me even just 'friendly' e-mails as something 'okay. I have dated 2 cheating ladies in the past. They can be sneakier than you or I could even imagine. Now... I'm not saying she has cheated. I think your instincts are probably right on, but I'm saying her schedule leaves room for it and you would never know. All she would have to do is skip class one day... Her contact with the Ex is inappropriate at best, cheating at worst. Tell her to choose between her xBF's and you. Choose now. You are not going to control her... that isn't your job. However, YOU don't have to put up with this crap. I bet money she chooses you. If she doesn't it means you are not the father of this child. Then you just have to check once ever 6 months or so to make sure she is not contacting him. Done. This is win-win for you, because you come out looking like a man with a pair of balls.... and she stops hitting up her ex. Or you can continue on... I'm sure this makes you feel and act insecure as hell... plus she sees you don't have the guts to put your foot down. Do you think women love a guy who is a pussy?
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