Ex-boyfriend/dumper wanting to remain friends one second, and then changes his mind

[loveisagame]

Ok, been in a long-distance relationship for almost year, he breaks up coz we're incompatible and whatnot. At first, he suggested to be friends and I said ok, but then realized how difficult it was coz I still have feelings for him. So, a month after the break up and trying to be "friends". I told him that I couldn't be friends with him at least not now, but sometime in the future when I've moved on and recovered. He accepted my decision. A week later after no contact, he texts me out of the blue saying that we can't be friends EVER. I asked why was he telling me this when we're already NOT friends? He answered coz it was going to happen anyways... I got mad at him and said thank you for opening my eyes coz now I see you for what you truly are, which nothing more than an a**hole. And that I couldn't believe I wasted a year of my life with him and that I regretted ever being with him. I deleted him from Facebook.

Few hours later, he contacts my bestfriend telling her to tell me that he's sorry and he didn't mean what he said, he doesnt want to erase me from his life and that he still wants to be my friend. And that eventhough I said I regretted dating him and that he's an a**hole. He doesn't regret anything, what he and I been through. Basically, he is sorry and wants to be friends with me again.

 

Now, what I'm wondering is: WHY?

Why would he come up to me and say I don't want to be friends with you EVER (when i was the one who suggested it in the first place but it was only for undefinite period of time) and then few hours later apologize and say that he doesn't want to erase me from his life?

What's his deal??!

 

Can anybody help me, please?

[loveisagame]

Thanks for the reply.

 

He isnt lonely. He seems to be having the time of his life since the break up coz he has his freedom back. To be honest, the break up was partially my fault. I was too controlling (I know, it's bad.).

My bestfriend is also his friend, so yeah... It's normal for him to talk to her as well.

And I know, that I have to move on and get over him, but the truth is there's still a part of me that still wants him back. Which is why I'm having a difficult time cutting all ties. I don't want to be his friends right now, so I can get better. But I hope that during the no contact period, he will sort of miss me and maybe have second thoughts.

I will use the no contact period to focus and work on myself tho.