Mark1 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 How big of a sign is physical contact from a woman? I ask because of a weird situation I am in. I graduated from my university a couple months ago. For the last 2 years, I had a professor, who I had a huge crush on. She liked me as well (as a student/friend). We always talked about life in her office hours. She helped me with the work a lot. Used me as a good example to other students. Poked fun of me to other students. Took an interest in learning about me and my family, letters of rec Etc etc. Obviously, as she was my professor, I didn't make a move. She would also mention that although she was divorced (she's about 45), she has a partner. She almost never referred to the partner as he or she, but once I heard her say he. Anyways, last week I went in to visit her. I have always heard that physical contact is a sign a woman is interested in you. Every joke I made, she would laugh hysterically, and put her hand on my hand or arm, and leave it there for a bit. So, I don't know. I'm just wondering 2 things. -Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male) -What to make of the touching?
kaylan Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 While its possible that she was flirting with you, SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. So back off and chill dude. I wouldnt read into this so much. She probably is just a really chummy gal.
Author Mark1 Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 While its possible that she was flirting with you, SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. So back off and chill dude. I wouldnt read into this so much. She probably is just a really chummy gal. Right. I don't think I should/will do anything; more just trying to make sense of the situation.
somedude81 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 That level of contact is too ambiguous to tell. Hell I once had a girl randomly poking me in my stomach and she had a boyfriend. Some women are just touchy.
Author Mark1 Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 Like I said, I'm not going to "do" anything. Just curious.
CC12 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 -Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male) My guess is that when you're older, it starts feeling a bit silly to refer to someone as "my boyfriend." It just doesn't feel age-appropriate. Maybe that's just me. It's also vague enough that it doesn't reveal personal details (like relationship status) that she maybe doesn't want known, which makes sense in her professional environment.
cerridwen Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 -Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male) Some people prefer the term "partnership" over "relationship" because it suggests equality. -What to make of the touching? She's likely touchy-feely, Mark. Though, I do find it a bit bizarre that she touches you at every joke.
reallyhotguy Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 Though, I do find it a bit bizarre that she touches you at every joke. Wait, that's not normal?
reallyhotguy Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 What did the buffalo say to his son when he dropped him off at school? Bison. TOUCH ME 2
Trimmer Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 -Why does she refer to her man as a partner? (assuming her partner is a male) In the community I live in, a "partner" is clearly a level of commitment beyond just 'boyfriend/girlfriend' and I believe most of my peers take it to be at a minimum a "living-together" situation. It's (perhaps not always, but often) what people call themselves who believe they are committed for life, but for whatever reason, are not going to marry. Now maybe this is just my peer group and regional or something; I'm not claiming this is true everywhere. -What to make of the touching? She may just be touchy-feely. I'm kinda that way too by nature, but I am alert and sensitive to people who are not receptive and I don't push it. It sounds like you've talked about your families and your lives - has the subject of her partner ever come up in any significant way? Or has it specifically been avoided?
FitChick Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 It used to be that gay people called each other "partner" and before that it meant a business relationship. I hate the term. It sounds clinical. Nothing wrong with boyfriend or girlfriend, which is more personal in my opinion.
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