sweetheart5381 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 Still missing him... have to see him everyday at work and it kills me. We had to brush by one another today... well truth is, I said "excuse me" as the room was crowded and he didnt move. I still passed him, brushed him as I passed, no choice. When I go out for a smoke he is there.. when he sees me his voice gets louder now, the alpha-male... I told him where to go after he wanted his space, I tried to do his "space" and couldnt do it, too much self-respect for the "space" thing and eventually told him where to go. I professed my love, did the right thing and he hung me out to dry. I do my best to ignore it, but it is still there. He dumped me, but he somehow made it my fault cuz I didnt give him his "space". He said I was obsessive about him (that was his last excuse for ending the relationship, though I have alot going on in my life, was a stretch to even keep him in it in the last month or 2) I still love him though... so crazy. Love is crazy.
Kamila Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I'm sorry you're missing him. And that you have to work with him everyday. That doesn't help to heal the wound does it ? I couldn't imagine myself having to work with my ex-boyfriend. I would be a mess at the end of the day or even quiting my job if necessary. I don't know if you have that possibility. And even then, is it worth it ? If it can be a consolation. Men tend to be very private when they deal with a failed relationship. They can show to the rest to the world that they are very fine. But deep-down they are so hurt and are afraid that it's showing. My ex-bf broke down the minute I was about to leave him. He displayed the alpha male behavior like you said: talking aloud, posing with an attitude, acting like he doesn't care, pretending like he owns the world. I almost laughed. But then that shows that we know our exes so well, who are they kidding, themselves ? And he cried like a baby, so much for growing up to do to become a real man you could say.
Frank13 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 (edited) Well it is not necessarily easier if you don't work with them. I worked with my ex, and dumped her because I cared more than she did and that wasn't working for me. I left the place we both worked at and was so happy the first two weeks knowing I wouldn't have to see her and could heal. After two weeks I started missing her. It has been almost 8 weeks NC and things seem to be getting worse as far as missing her. In fact I think it was easier working with her because at least I know she thought of me because we were around each other. I am just keeping NC and hoping in the next few months I feel indifferent toward her. I have to. I don't have any other choice. It's just hard knowing they don't care. Edited February 28, 2012 by Frank13
Cocollective Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 I love the Script! Notice how so many of their good songs are about broken relationships? I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I had 5 months where I was in a similar situation to you. It was uncomfortable to the extreme- so much so, that I vowed never to date a coworker again. It's funny though, it's been two years but I don't think i've ever really let go. Everyone I see that vaguely resembles her still reminds me of her.
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