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So some of y'all may remember me talking about a guy I met over christmas! Long story short. Met online, moved super fast, he freaked, claimed he wasn't over his ex, and we didn't talk (i definitely tried). Well, about a month ago or so I messaged him stating that I saw him on campus! And noting that I was going to say hi but didnt want to like shout his name out or whatever! Claimed that I should've said hi, and agreed that we should hang out when i suggested it! So the following week the week he noted hed be more free I asked if he wanted to hang, and he said he was busy. Saw on twitter that he actually did go out so i just assumed he didn't really want to talk to me. Fast forward a few weeks/month later. I saw him online super late at night. I work for a show early in the morning so I get up at the wee hours of the morning. So, when I saw him online I was like go to bed! and he was like ha i'm about to! only if you could come snuggle with me! and i was like are you drunk lol? i was excited to hear him say that, but ya know didn't want to "jump the gun". Next day texted him asking if he was indeed drunk, and was like hahaha yeah sorry about that! i was like hahahaha oh brad joking it off! Then a few days later he fb chats me in class and hes like this!

 

him: hi!

me: heyyyy whats up

him: nota, sorry for being all drunk a few nights ago!

me:haha you didn't offend me

him: i was actin like a dummy...haha k..good

me: couldve been from a worse person good thing you're attractive

him: haha. well thank you!!

me: welcome :) . we DO need to hang soon tho

him: agreed, when are you on campus

me: (give him the days i'm there)

him: hes like sweet we have the same times. let grab some lunch on campus..i'm always eating outside of class ( note i live 30 mins away from school thats why we're planning a campus hang out i assume)

me: where do you eat at? i think we should get drinks or both! ha

him: cool..that works too

me: but where on campus?

him:whereever theres tons of places

me: true but some places are more sketch than others!

him:haha

me: i'll text you and we'll set something up! kind of busy next week. moving in to a new place/ starting a new job

him: really? where you moving to?

me: tell him where

and then hes like well hey i'm going to run. hit me up next week or whenever.

 

So, I don't want to get my hopes up. Lunch dates always catch me of guard. But do ya'll see maybe a chance of rekindling something? Thank you for your time

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What exactly do you want to rekindle? You sound desperate and he seems bored. Why are you still interested this guy when he has actions have shown numerous times that he is not interested enough to pursue you. Are you looking for someone to just have sex with because that impression you seem to be giving him. Really, "good thing you are attractive", after he insulted you? You need to figure out what exactly you think you are rekindling and what you actually want.

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no, no, no. Why were you excited he wanted you to come "snuggle"? He was drunk. You are grasping at straws :(

 

I guarantee if YOU don't initiate / make sure plans happen, they WON'T happen.

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i was excited to hear him say that, but ya know didn't want to "jump the gun"

 

You already jumped the gun.

 

Did you notice that when you started trying to get specific and set up a time/place to meet, he started completely blowing you off and avoiding the subject? It was painfully obvious to me. I implore you to get better at reading between the lines when interacting with people.

 

But do ya'll see maybe a chance of rekindling something?

 

No. None. At all. I'm sorry. Nothing there implies that he wants anything with you. He used the standard, "Yeah, we should definitely meet up sometime" line that people say when they're trying to be polite to an acquaintance. This should not have given you hope that he wanted to see you again. If he wanted to see you, he would. You have given him many, many opportunities to do so. You are throwing it at him.

 

Lunch dates always catch me of guard.

 

You do not have a lunch date. He blew you off.

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The only time he got in touch with you was when he was drunk. All the other times (and I read your post carefully) he was backing out of everything. You made all the suggestions and paid all the compliments, he gave you nothing.

 

I would move on from this one.

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