If a girl shows strong interest in the begining, are you supposed to be aloof to her?

[garycoleman]

It seems like all of the dating advice on the internet dating and pickup artist websites and forums say to play aloof when a girl shows interest to keep her interest level high.

 

This has never worked for me. It seems to make girls get angry and lose interest in me. Friends and relatives I know that have successful relationships never play these games.

 

Right now I'm seeing new girl who is showing a lot of interest and I going to reciprocate the same interest level back.

[ScienceGal]

It seems like all of the dating advice on the internet dating and pickup artist websites and forums say to play aloof when a girl shows interest to keep her interest level high.

 

This has never worked for me. It seems to make girls get angry and lose interest in me. Friends and relatives I know that have successful relationships never play these games.

 

Right now I'm seeing new girl who is showing a lot of interest and I going to reciprocate the same interest level back.

 

Do not play games. If you need to play games to keep a woman, she's not worth the hassle.

 

Just be honest, and tell her how much you enjoy spending time with her (assuming you do). Note: "tell", not text or email. Smile when you tell her and see what her response is. She should smile too. And, she should tell you the same thing back. Then, smile some more. Hug, kiss, etc. Life is good. And if she doesn't feel the same way, at least you'll know... and you'll have avoided wasting time playing silly games.

 

As long as you're talking about a healthy attraction and enjoyment of each other (and not obsession/infatuation), just stay open and honest.

 

Good luck.

[veggirl]

Right now I'm seeing new girl who is showing a lot of interest and I going to reciprocate the same interest level back.

 

Good This is exactly what you should do. A girl with a healthy self esteem will walk if a guy is acting disinterested. Good luck with this one

[Thieves]

Please. Please don't listen to so-called "pick-up" artists about this. If she shows great interest in you, and you feel it's genuine, go with it. Compliment her back. Respond to her. Make her laugh. Show your interest as evenly as she shows it to you. Dating should, for the most part, be an even weight. Nobody should be dragging the other along, or playing behind a mask.

 

Don't act cold if you think it will leave her 'panting' for more, because for all of the women that I've met who have had that schtick pulled on them? Yeah, it may have worked occasionally, but all it did was cause a lot of unnecessary confusion and bitterness towards the guy involved.

 

I know it comes off like "bull" sometimes, but showing actual interest -- and not being afraid to do so -- is so attractive.

[fortyninethousand322]

You're going to have to be a little aloof. My general form of advice is to act the opposite of me. So, be a little aloof, not too much, but just right. Like the porridge that Goldilocks ended up eating.

[FitChick]

If a man acts aloof or unavailable, I figure he's not interested in me so I move on. I find it refreshing if a man is secure enough to risk letting me know he likes me.

[monkey00]

While it's true people want what they can't have. People also like people that like them back. If you need to play games to attract someone, then they probably wouldn't be worth your time. Someone should like you for who you are, not for a fake facade or front you're putting up.