Silas25 Posted June 7, 2004 Posted June 7, 2004 Ok so I know there are probably post like this all the time, but here is another.. I have meet a really nice guy that I have alot in common with. The nice part seems to be the problem considering it is hard to distinguish whether he is just "like that" with everyone or if it is different with me. We email back and forth everyday, hangout atleast 1-2 times a week. He doesn't seem like the touchy feely kinda flirt, but he picks on me alot (always joking of course), remembers things I say(even things I don't remember telling him), and seems disappointed when he might not see sometime during the week/weekend. He is always willing to help me and so far has been there when I have needed that help. I really like this person, but I think I want to wait it out and see what else may develop. But I also want to get some input into whether I might be reading to into it/ or just being oblivious to the obvious signs. I think eventually I will have to just get up the nerve to ask or say something to him about it. Also, I will be talking to the friend that introduced us to see what she might have insight on..she says that she was not trying to fix us up, but I think that is a load of crap (not that I am complaining if things head in that direction).... I guess my question should be what does anyone out there think? What does anyone suggest I do to progress things a little??How would you even approach that subject? Thanks
yes Posted June 7, 2004 Posted June 7, 2004 Hmm... difficult situation. My suggestion is to touch him a lil - subtly - just to see his reaction. Ya know, a hug, a touch on the arm, whatever. You may be able to see from his reaction where his head's at. Or how about dropping hints... ask him "so when r u gonna introduce me to your girlfriend?" - watch the reaction. If such small provocations don't work, you'll have to talk to him, i guess... my 2c. good luck, -yes
dudesomewhere Posted June 7, 2004 Posted June 7, 2004 well, first off, ask yourself this... would you still like him if he just liked you as a friend. But meaning this is a guy that calls a friend a friend, when he cares and maybe even loves you and not a friend because he's exchanged words with you. He sounds a little like me, with a lot of respect for a female friend and he truly seems to value you as a true friend. Let me just say that in my life, it sucks when females only want you to look at them as dates or pursue them romantically, regardless if they actually are attracted to me or not. Also, I hope your attraction, if that(I don't see mention of anything in that sense) isn't because he is nice...niceness just makes people comfortable into believing they are attracted...yes my case too. Women think they are attracted to me but it's just because I'm harmless So just ask him as a friend when you guys are hanging out together and it's fairly private. Just ask him what he thinks of you and leave it at that. Meaning you'll know whether or not to ask other questions based on the answers you'll get.
Author Silas25 Posted June 7, 2004 Author Posted June 7, 2004 I think of him as a great person and am not just attracted because he is nice to me. We have alot in common and things seem to be progressing at times. I would not think any less of him if he just wants to be close friends, because he is someone I want in my life no matter how things end up. All of those points are why I want to figure out if I am reading into his nice personality. I don't want to hurt anyone involved and in all actuallity I would prefer things to atleast start out as a good friendship before anything else. I don't think that all guy girl interactions have to turn into dating or have to be attractions, it is just this one seems to be special to me...I have had situations were they have started out as attraction, but turned out to be some wonderful friendships....you have to start somewhere with everyone right?
dudesomewhere Posted June 7, 2004 Posted June 7, 2004 sounds like the start(already started of course but just for effect ) of a beautiful relationship, wherever destiny takes it. At least that's what I hope . I'm jealous of you 2 already...not just him and not just you...but of the both of you. So beautiful...me cry......where's my cry emoticon?
bart Posted June 9, 2004 Posted June 9, 2004 If he remembers the little details you said, then yeah I'd say he likes you. Scientifically, it's been proven that when a person is romantically inclined toward another, his/her sensory perception enhances. Of course, this varies from person to person. You guy actually sounds like me, I liked to tease girls I liked too. And I remember every little detail, down to the patterns and colors of the shirt. Go on a trip together. Being away from the routine helps.
Author Silas25 Posted July 16, 2004 Author Posted July 16, 2004 Thank you guys for the advice. Well I finally got my answer the other night right from his mouth. We are going to go on our first date-date this weekend! He was worried about some of the same things I was(like I didn't feel the same and it would ruin us being able to hang out at all). Wahhoo yeah....I am soo excited. I think things are going to great between us!
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