Jynxx Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Ladies, describe good conversation when getting to know a guy. What topics are discussed? How often is there a silence and how long does it last? Do you dislike or try to steer away from certain topics like politics, exes, religion or other sensitive things? What % of the time do you talk and what % does he talk? Do you ask questions or give opinions and insight and let it flow from there? How long before 1 topic becomes boring and how exactly does good conversation changes topics? Guys can chime in aswell obviously.
FitChick Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 The conversation either flows naturally or it doesn't. If it doesn't, the man and I are not compatible.
SmileFace Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 It isn't exactly what the conversation is about or the topic because with the right man I won't even care what we are talking about. The topics differ from person to person, I may think a good conversation is debating politics a next girl may find attentiveness to her child hood a better topic. There isnt certain topic or formula that works for this, you just have to get out there and get to know the girl. The point is to get to know her and that may different for many girls.
sigurpol Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Chiming in as a guy. Most topics I find interesting are the usual hobby discussions. Traveling, music (what they listen to or if they're a musician themselves. I like to make it fun and ask them to name me a top 5), books, films. Normally from this stuff, personal accounts or stories will come up. Especially when you start to ask about where they're from and stuff. I don't know, I guess it just happens naturally. Be an active listener and there really isn't a need to make a checklist of topics. Its whatever you're curious about.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 The topics I find that get women interested most are relationship topics. This is the topic that gets women the most intrigued.
Thieves Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I agree with the posters that say there is no formal dynamnic for good conversations. If anything, the few things all good conversations have in common are naturalness, and mutual enjoyment. One thing I like to do when I'm trying to see whether I really like a guy is think of how well our conversations go. In my opinion, there should be a natural give and take. Almost like ping-pong. One person bounces a topic your way, you add something to it and bounce it back. The topics can be on anything, it doesn't matter, because we'll both just be enjoying talking with each other. Also, it might just be me, but I really need someone who knows how to joke around with me a lot! There's nothing more attractive to me than when a guy and I are able to poke fun at each other back and forth and still have the conversation be stimulating...
Star Gazer Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 The conversation either flows naturally or it doesn't. If it doesn't, the man and I are not compatible. Agreed. It isn't exactly what the conversation is about or the topic because with the right man I won't even care what we are talking about. The topics differ from person to person. Agreed, but I'd also add that the topics differ from day to day even with the same person. The reason I adore my SO so much is because we can go from talking about something silly and superficial to something serious and significant, and everything in between. It just flows.
Arkaeology Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 Passion. Talk about your passion/s. That will let you in on what the person is all about. This can be anything really like work or hobby. Also, don't discount the individual specially if the first date didn't go to well or if there were a lot awkward silence. Sometimes, the first date/coffee is full of emotional jitters that makes it sucky. If the second date is still the same thing, there's definitely compatibility issues.
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