ptp Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I am okay during the day, it is at night when I miss her. I hate coming home alone after a great night out. I hate not having someone sleeping next to me.
mike588 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I am okay during the day, it is at night when I miss her. I hate coming home alone after a great night out. I hate not having someone sleeping next to me. Your not alone...I think all of us dumpees feel/felt the same way...it does get better though...that I promise you!
rach24680 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Hey at least u have great nights out and are oky during the day, sounds like ur coping quite well!!! Unlike the complete mess that is me. Why dnt u try getting a house/flat mate?
jus d'orange Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I am okay during the day, it is at night when I miss her. I hate coming home alone after a great night out. I hate not having someone sleeping next to me. That's rough, man. I'd always had a LDR, so I'd gotten used to sleeping alone... but we'd been together for 10 days right before we'd broken up. The idea that she'd never be back in my bed at first was too painful to bear. I found it really helps if I try to "man up" in the situation a bit. It's pretty unusual for me to say that, but remember that you can be a confident, strong single guy. You don't need someone to comfort you like that, and as the days go by, you'll get used to it. Keep positive as best you can, and perhaps wait until you're really tired before falling asleep, so you don't have to lie in bed and feel the absence quite as much.
NeverAgainDC Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I am okay during the day, it is at night when I miss her. I hate coming home alone after a great night out. I hate not having someone sleeping next to me. You're going out and doing things at night which is a good start. Take it a step further and bring a nice female home with you from those great nights out. It will at least temporarily solve your problem.
ScienceGal Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 You are not alone. I still haven't gotten a body pillow, I really need to. There is a guy interested in me, and he is very sweet... but I can't just jump into his bed (cuddle or sex-wise). Oh, how I miss it though, all of it. Sigh. Be strong. I obviously don't recommend taking random women home. If that isn't your style don't just do it as a coping mechanism, it will not help you.
Cmac Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I'm the opposite, mornings are the worst for me. Especially if I have a dream about my ex, which seems to be occurring pretty frequently right now.
Thatguyintx Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I'm the opposite, mornings are the worst for me. Especially if I have a dream about my ex, which seems to be occurring pretty frequently right now. Amen to the dreams. Really wish they would stop!
Author ptp Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 Hey at least u have great nights out and are oky during the day, sounds like ur coping quite well!!! Unlike the complete mess that is me. Why dnt u try getting a house/flat mate? I read your story, sorry to hear, I can empathize with you. My relationship wasn't nearly as long as yours, that is maybe why I am doing a bit better. That's rough, man. I'd always had a LDR, so I'd gotten used to sleeping alone... but we'd been together for 10 days right before we'd broken up. The idea that she'd never be back in my bed at first was too painful to bear. I found it really helps if I try to "man up" in the situation a bit. It's pretty unusual for me to say that, but remember that you can be a confident, strong single guy. You don't need someone to comfort you like that, and as the days go by, you'll get used to it. Keep positive as best you can, and perhaps wait until you're really tired before falling asleep, so you don't have to lie in bed and feel the absence quite as much. Thanks, It wasn't so much of her comfort, it is more that once you get used to something, when that something is taken away it feels different, it feels weird. I had just gotten used to her so much. During the days, I am up and about and see other people, interact with them and night it is just me so her absence is more pronounced.
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