rach24680 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Hey, its been 5 days n im a total wreck - findin it difficult to do anything at all. Iv lost my biyfruend, my best friend, my whole life has changed, i dont go out to the pub we used to go in so i dnt see the ppl we casually hung out with or his family who i was close with, i feel like im missing an arm or somethin. I no its new and raw n ill prib feel like this for a while ( we were together for 4 years and eev split both still loving each other) just wondering how long others have felt this bad for? i dont think i can cope feeling so awful for months and months!!
blotter Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Welcome to the party, we are all oh so happy here. A 4 year relationship will probably take months and months to get over.
mike588 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Hey, its been 5 days n im a total wreck - findin it difficult to do anything at all. Iv lost my biyfruend, my best friend, my whole life has changed, i dont go out to the pub we used to go in so i dnt see the ppl we casually hung out with or his family who i was close with, i feel like im missing an arm or somethin. I no its new and raw n ill prib feel like this for a while ( we were together for 4 years and eev split both still loving each other) just wondering how long others have felt this bad for? i dont think i can cope feeling so awful for months and months!! Oh yes we have all felt this bad especially only after 5 days. It's going to take time to get thru this...each day it gets alittle better but there are setbacks too. It's normal to feel the way your feeling...we've all been there but it DOES GET BETTER! I'm 7 months into being dumped and it took a month just to get thru that initial shock and pain then as each week..month passed it got better..About 2 months ago I'd pretty much gotten over her...no more tears...rarely thought of her and had adjusted. Don't look down the road to far...just take it day by day...hour by hour if you have to but the good news is...it really does get better...really! 1
Author rach24680 Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 Thanks mike, i know itl get better but its strange to think it will, i just wish i could fast forward 6 months so i dont have to go thru it all!! any tips for trying to stay sane?
mike588 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Thanks mike, i know itl get better but its strange to think it will, i just wish i could fast forward 6 months so i dont have to go thru it all!! any tips for trying to stay sane? Don't break contact...stay busy..cry when you feel you need to..take care of yourself..spend time with friends and family and once again don't break contact. I was at my 6th month...doing soooo good then she contacts me.Ahhhhh..set me back alittle...it's hard to get over a person...to move on if you stay in contact with that person. Keep posting when you feel you need to.
jus d'orange Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I've just hit the 4 week mark. At 1 week, I thought I was doing better, then I crashed again for a few days. Now I've had several days in a row of feeling pretty good about things. Each day will seem to take an eternity to pass, but they add up. I can't believe I haven't seen her at all in over 5 weeks... Life moves on! Keep following the great advice that's here on LS. Take it to head... it will take a while for your heart to follow suit. That's where everyone is different. But, at least, don't let your logical side fail you and fall into self-imposed exile from your own life! You'll keep crying at times, but you WILL make it through this. Tell yourself each day that you'll be strong today. If you end up not feeling strong that day, don't worry. There's always tomorrow. As long as you keep that positive attitude and keep following the advice, you'll be on your way to healing as quickly as your heart will let you. Best of luck. We all know what you're feeling.
Philosoraptor Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 Hey, its been 5 days n im a total wreck - findin it difficult to do anything at all. Iv lost my biyfruend, my best friend, my whole life has changed, i dont go out to the pub we used to go in so i dnt see the ppl we casually hung out with or his family who i was close with, i feel like im missing an arm or somethin. I no its new and raw n ill prib feel like this for a while ( we were together for 4 years and eev split both still loving each other) just wondering how long others have felt this bad for? i dont think i can cope feeling so awful for months and months!! You will have ups and downs, but you will get better when you allow yourself to get better. Take time to yourself to heal. Forgive yourself and your ex(internally) for all of the wrongdoings and make a vow to yourself to not make the same mistakes again. Right now is the time to worry about yourself and to nourish your own life. Spend time with friends and family, find new hobbies, and learn to love yourself the most.
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