scooter62788 Posted June 7, 2004 Posted June 7, 2004 Hi. My name is Brad and I am a Junior in High School (11th). I started dating this girl from another school and she is going to be a senior. We have been going out for 5 days now. We were set up on kind of a blind date type of deal except we had seen each other before but we never really talked to each other when we saw each other the first time. But we went to a thing in my town called Summer Start where there are Boat Races and carnival rides and all that stuff. But first we went to my best friends girlfriends house where I was going to be meeting this girl that they were trying to hook me up with. To make the story easier to tell. MY best friends name is Brandon. His girlfriend's name is Brittanie and the girl that they are trying to hook me up with is named Mary, which is Brittanie's best friend. Anywayz, when we got to Brittanie's house, Mary came downstairs to talk to Brandon but I guess she was just coming down there to check me out to see if she liked me or not. And come to find out, when she went back upstairs, she told Brittanie, "Damn, he is hot." When Brittanie told me that I was all smile. No other girl have every told me I was hot seriously before. Usually a girl would say I am cute or something along that line. The next couple of days we talked and talked on the phone, although there were too many a time where the phone line would be quiet. I am really shy when it comes to first meeting a girl but after I get used to her and get to know her better, I open up and they see a whole different person almost but the new person is "still attractive" I guess I could say. Mary is usually "loud" but she is shy around guys. Anywayz, that was just kind of a short story on what's going on. But what I'm wanting help with is if there is any way you can help me on opening up to my girlfriend better. I feel like when I first saw her, it was kind of a love at first sight thing, because everytime after I leave her, or am away from her, my stomach gets queezy because I miss her, and I haven't been eating as much lately (Probably because I am watching my weight), and there are a couple things that we each are into. Like she doesn't watch baseball and I like baseball and I dont watch hockey and she watches hockey. Well lately, I have been watching a few minutes of hockey games and she has been watching my favorite baseball team's games. I'm wondering if this is kind of a love at first sight thing or a true love thing going on because I have never felt this way about a girl. She is crazy about me and I am crazy about her. She is probably my hottest and most attractive (Personality-wise) girlfriend I have ever had. We both are looking for a long-term relationship. And Brittanie (My best friends girlfriend) said that usually married couples look alike. And she was hinting to me that we look alike. We both wear sunglasses, we both wear hats, we have dark hair, we actually do kinda look alike. But I was also wantin to know what I can do to possibly open up to Mary faster. I mean, usually after our first kiss or first make out session, I usually open up to a girl faster. We have already kissed and we did kind of a "mini-make out session" but I think I'll prolly open up to her after we make out more or it might take time like it usually does. We have already both agreed that each of us has been the best kisser we have kissed. I think the reason why maybe we don't talk too much is because every time we have seen each other, we have been with other people. We both don't have our licenses yet. I'll be getting mine in about 4 weeks. And she'll be taking Behind The Wheel in July. So we basically rely on Brittanie and Brandon to see each other. We did have some alone time on the day I asked her out, but we were still around a group of people. We have never had just ALONE time. 1 on 1. I do have a feeling though that once I get my license, I'll be going over to see her a lot and that is going to make our relationship SO MUCH BETTER. But in the meantime, I'll be waiting for your response. I hope you respond before Tuesday because we are supposed to be going to the mall and then to the movies (With friends of course)
uriel Posted June 7, 2004 Posted June 7, 2004 Aw -- this is so sweet. Just take it easy. Sounds like everything's going fine. Spend time getting to know her. Ask her questions about herself, things like what her favorite childhood memories are, what she can remember wanting to be when she grew up, where she wants to go to college. At the movies, ask about what movies she likes, talk about the one you're seeing and ones like it that you've seen. Just let the conversation come naturally. Let pauses / silences develop where you squeeze her hand or just sit together. Let her ask you questions and then answer with interest -- like you really want her to get to know you too. Listen when she talks -- that's really important. Respond to what she's saying like you would to a good friend or a potential friend. Don't get into divulging the most crazy, intimate, painful, deepest stuff yet. That can come later once you know and trust each other more. Keep it about who you are and who she is. Loosen up by telling her a funny childhood memory or recent story about something you did with your friends (nothing off color). If you want to admit a feeling after a great date, tell her "I really like you" during the goodnight kiss. That's sweet and light -- not too serious, but enough to let her know you'd like this to have longer term potential. Then, give it a couple more dates and get her a little present -- something small, sentimental, and personal. She'll get the idea . -- uriel
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