little_bear Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I was friends with this woman at work. She started cheating on her husband and I began to find out more and more horrible things about her. She is a very deceitful and manipulative woman. She lies constantly and uses people for her own selfishness. She was dragging me into a bunch of her lies and quite frankly, really stressing me out. I could no longer watch her cheating on her husband and being such a crappy person. I told her to leave me alone and I no longer wanted to have any sort of involvement with her. She knows I know about her cheating. Now I'm pretty sure she sees me as a threat. She has started speaking badly about me to people we both know. I just don't even know how to deal with this woman. She is making things difficult for me at work. I have been with the company far longer than she has and I really don't want to leave my job because of her. I need advice!!
freestyle Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I think your best bet is to stick to the higher ground at work. In other words---don't engage in negative gossip about her w/your co workers. You'll look better, and she'll look like the one who's trying to stir up drama. You can be professionally polite for work reasons. If she asks you anything personal--you can respond by saying, "Sorry, that's personal..." without being mean about it.
Author little_bear Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 I guess my real worry is that everyone will believe her. She is soooooo fake and most people see her as some Mary Sunshine Sweetheart. I don't think anyone would really comprehend what kind of person she really is.
SpiralOut Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 Some people will be naive enough to believe what she says. Others will see through her. The people who really know you will see that she is totally full of crap. I am willing to bet that eventually she will find someone else to latch onto and cause drama with and she will be bad-mouthing that person too. When that happens it will be very clear to everyone in the company what sort of person she is. Say nothing bad about her and let her say whatever she wants about you. Let her make herself look bad.
whichwayisup Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I was friends with this woman at work. She started cheating on her husband and I began to find out more and more horrible things about her. She is a very deceitful and manipulative woman. She lies constantly and uses people for her own selfishness. She was dragging me into a bunch of her lies and quite frankly, really stressing me out. I could no longer watch her cheating on her husband and being such a crappy person. I told her to leave me alone and I no longer wanted to have any sort of involvement with her. She knows I know about her cheating. Now I'm pretty sure she sees me as a threat. She has started speaking badly about me to people we both know. I just don't even know how to deal with this woman. She is making things difficult for me at work. I have been with the company far longer than she has and I really don't want to leave my job because of her. I need advice!! Fact that she is now messing with you on a professional level , trying to make you look bad isn't cool. YOu need to talk to your boss and let them know what's going on and just stay away from this woman. Rise above it, don't talk behind her back and just focus on your work. She's not a nice person and she's manipulative etc., others will figure it out by watching her and seeing who she is. People's true colours eventually come out, so don't worry about what she says about you! Your reputation is good and I'm sure you're respected at work, so have faith.
Author little_bear Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Her and one of her friends (a guy who thrives on drama) began posting things about me on Facebook starting a month ago. I deleted them both because I didn't want to see any of it. Then a few days ago a coworker tagged me in a photo from January and the guy started making rude comments about me on it and it came up in my newsfeed. I then had to block them. I really thought I was too old to be dealing with this bullying. I am at my wits end now. How do I stop this???
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Her and one of her friends (a guy who thrives on drama) began posting things about me on Facebook starting a month ago. I deleted them both because I didn't want to see any of it. Then a few days ago a coworker tagged me in a photo from January and the guy started making rude comments about me on it and it came up in my newsfeed. I then had to block them. I really thought I was too old to be dealing with this bullying. I am at my wits end now. How do I stop this??? Change your settings so nobody can tag you, they need your permission first. Secondly, report it to facebook. Talk to your boss too, let them know what has happened and that if it doesn't stop immediately you're going to the cops and charging them with harrassment. Adults get bullied too. How flippin' immature are these people?! WTF.
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