jurney Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 My 11 year old daughter found out that I like wearing toe nail polish. She did not say any thing to me but I know she happened to see my toes that were polished red. I try hard to keep them covered at all times when I am around my kids. should I say somthing to her? Or just let it be. It got me thinking what if my kids find some of the other things that my wife and I like. Such as toys, and bondage things that we try to keep locked up but somtimes we don't. Has this happend to any body and how did you handle it.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I think that the toenail polish thing is fine for your daughter to know about. In my opinion, it could help her to be accepting about all the many ways people can be different. Why shouldn't a man wear toenail polish if he feels like it? It's not wrong, and it's not overtly sexual. The other stuff - no. Not because I think there's anything wrong with it, but I do believe that the specifics of parents' sex life need to be none of the kids' business. Plus, bondage gear and a lot of toys can look dangerous and threatening to someone who has no idea what they are looking at - and 11 years old is too young for her to be taught to have an idea about those things. So keep that under wraps. 4
setsenia Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Definitely agree. Nail polish is harmless. Just like your son might play with dolls and your daughter could like action figures. Helping your kids steer away from gender stereotyping can be very beneficial and to see each other as individuals not by labels such as boy, girl etc and what each one should like. As for the bondage, also agree. Keep it hidden away in a safe place as your kids don't need to know details about your sex life. I always found it awkward when my dad told me about his sex life, especially when my boyfriend at the time found his "used" condom. There are ways to keep that stuff hidden safely away. A safe is a good investment.
Author jurney Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 Thankyou for replying, we do keep are other things put away at all times just some times we don't lock them up. I know that they were snopping around at Christmas time looking for gifts. I just don't know if they saw anything. I also have a 15 year old son.
riverman Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Being open minded is good but certain things especially for a 11 year old needs to be hidden for them,imo it's on the parents to make sure child doesn't find out. Something too extreme can really bother them if they stumble upon it ,perventing them from finding it is the best way. Like others said the nails isn't really a big issue but it can help b.c it's cause you to be more careful.
g450 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 This is where boundries and discipline come into play. It's very simple. My house rules are that OUR bedroom is OFF LIMITS. Problem solved before it becomes a problem.
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