6 months since first love dumped me, still finding it very difficult

[MIK1000]

I can't quite believe it's already been 6 months, but not as much as I can't believe that I still feel like this after 6 months.

 

Is this normal with most break ups or more so with first love break up's?

 

We were together almost a year and a half, and she was away abroad for 3 months when she dumped me for another guy (who'm she is still in a LD relationship with). I'm thinking the total lack of closure I got because she was abroad at the time, has made me struggle to move on. I'm 21 and she's 19 and she lives round the corner from me.

 

I saw her last night in the pub and we didn't acknowledge each other (I avoided looking at her when I walked in to be fair).

 

I still harbour hope of getting back togeather one day down the line, mainly because we live so close to each other and are going to cross paths in years to come. This hope is probably the thing that's killing me the most.

 

Is this normal after six months?

[CaliBabe]

This is normal. I mean, this is someone you once loved and spent your life with. It will get easier with each passing month.

 

You mentioned closure. I went through the same thing... Not having closure. And I realized that I needed to give myself closure to move on. So I did. I am 8 months going on 9 months post break up. And it gets easier every day. Stay strong and what your going through is normal.

[MIK1000]

This is normal. I mean, this is someone you once loved and spent your life with. It will get easier with each passing month.

 

You mentioned closure. I went through the same thing... Not having closure. And I realized that I needed to give myself closure to move on. So I did. I am 8 months going on 9 months post break up. And it gets easier every day. Stay strong and what your going through is normal.

 

 

That's the thing though, I don't feel like I'm getting better. It scares me how much I still love and miss her. It also bothers me how she'll never know how much she hurt me and how I love as deep as this. I'm not sure if I need to feel what love is like with someone else before I can properly forget about her, maybe I loved being in love so much.

 

It also doesn't help that everytime I leave my house I have to deal with the possibillity that I might see her because she stays round the corner.

 

How can love not fade? Even when someone has treated you like dirt.

[Marianis]

For me it's been already a year and im almost over my ex.. it hurts still those little flashes i have but what i learned here in LS is that every person have their own healing process.. and it doesnt matter how long it takes what matter is what happen in the process .. just dont push it ..