Author offcloudnine Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 @MovingOn13 You're absolutely right. I don't know what I'm thinking, she's no longer the same person that I love and that loved me. It's just so hard to accept this fact in such a short period of time.
Author offcloudnine Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 Can anyone please help me make sense of what she means when she says that she wants to fall in love? It's hard to believe that she never did with me over the course of 3 years, we were so loving and caring together. This has got me really confused and I hope some LS members can share their opinions on this.
Falcon25 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 You're still here? It's over man. She wants to fall in love, she hasn't with you. It's over. SHe wants to meet someone who brings joy to her, someone who makes her puvsy tingle. That's not you. Move on man. She is telling youuuuuuuuuuuuu. It's like me saying to you "hey man, wish I could meet a good friend, someone not like you". come on man.
Author offcloudnine Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 @Falcon25 I have nowhere else to go at this point. It seems that way, but I'm not sure how I can convince anyone but myself of this now, but I'm certain that she fell in love with me at one point or another. I just want to try to make more sense of this, and I can't so I'm hoping others can help.
Falcon25 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 Cloud, I want you to read this very carefully. My girlfriend did the same thing to me, told me she loved me, acted like she cared. LISTEN TO ME They are like light switches. They can turn it on and off at an instant. They are not like us. Once they lose it, it's gone. They lose it not because sometimes it's your fault, but sometimes cause they are built like that. I took my girl to the hospital, she was bleeding, I changed her clothes, her bleeding all over the place, I bought her stuff, I took her to tests, I carried her into her home. I did everything that a man should do. You know what she told me? Sometimes I want a relationship, other days I don't . I'm sorry. IT MEANS NOTHING TO THEM. Once they lose it, it's gone. WHo knows why? Does it matter? You have to find one that wont lose it. One that wants you to death.
Falcon25 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 I want you to get angry. You don't deserve this. But next time, just be more reserved. REMEMBER WHAT I SAID, THEY CAN TURN IT ON AND OFF AT AN INSTANT. SO BE CAREFUL HOW MUCH YOU GIVE, IT COULD BE GONE TOMORROW. GET MAD. SHE SHOULDN'T DO THIS TO YOU. I still can't sleep at night. I still need the tv on. It hurts, but you know what hurts more? Chasing someone who doesn't love you. Even if she did before. They are like light switches. One or two things, and it's over.
Author offcloudnine Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 @Falcon25 I really do hate what she's doing to me, I hate it with a passion. But could you get angry/hate the person you have loved so deeply for so long? It's not a easy thing to do I assure you. I'm finding it difficult to sleep at night as well, finding it difficult to find an appetite, finding it difficult to do the things I once enjoyed. If so many relationships end up like this, it makes one wonder why people should even bother, it's obviously more trouble than worth.
Author offcloudnine Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 I just want to add that I just wanted to try to make sense of what she meant...and well your light switch theory fits, but it doesn't help clear up the fog much.
Falcon25 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 Me too Cloud, I feel the same way. My friend, married 11 years, 2 kids, his wife told him last month she doesn't love him anymore. 11 years, 2 kids, MEANT NOTHING TO HER. We live in different times my friend. The only thing that subsides sadness is anger. Be angry so that you can find someone else. The reason why some guys never give their girls 100 percent is because of this. They know that a woman is fickle. That a woman can fall out of love as quick as she got in one. That's why they spoon feed their girls. They give them a little at a time. They say "Why should I give 100 percent, when she could leave me anytime?". I lost 9 pounds, don't even want to eat or have fun. But I'm getting better, I'm starting to understand. They are different. They don't care about time, work, kids, whatever. Once they lose the love they feel (for whatever reason), they have made up their minds, they don't care. They just want out. Not like a hundred years ago, when your woman needed you to survive, they can do anything now. A woman is fickle, try not to fall for it, one day they will love you, next day their feelings may change. This is especially true with young girls, or girls with emotional problems.
Author offcloudnine Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 @Falcon25 I just read your story Falcon25, I'm sorry you had to have your heart broken too. But it seems very likely that your ex used your as a rebound and our stories are actually quite different. However, I am starting to agree that most women are rather fickle emotionally. Why are they like this?
Falcon25 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 That is why my break up is fixable (for the next girl), and yours is not. You are losing attraction in a woman. Fix that. Or all women will do this to you from here on end. I just have to find a woman that is not on the rebound. You have to find your manhood. Get angry, make the next one's puvsy tingle. Remember that. Later.
stimson554 Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 this is all the knowledge you will ever need right here lol. First of all do NOT remain in contact with this girl all it is is going to cause you uneeded pain and frustration, do not even try to be her friend and refuse if she wants to remain friends with you, its all just a way of her trying to compensate for her guilt of breaking it off with you, lemme tell you now n i know it will hurt and i know you dont want to accept it but she doesnt and she never did love you shes what you call a come and go and your gonna have alot of those in your life you are still young and have not yet fully experienced the complexities of the dating world, what you need is to take some time off of dating and really get to understand who you are and once you are secure and firmly established in who you are and know that you are independant and dont need to depend on anyone else for happiness then you are ready to date again because what that is going to do for you is nextttime your in a situation like this you wont be in pain, because you will be able to just shake it off and have that confidance that your going to be okay and there are plenty of people out there. no truer advice will be given to you then this. im sorry for your situation i experienced something exactly the same as this before just take me adice and you will just be fine
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