MsUnderstood Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 We were fighting a lot in our relationship and I think we were both unhappy. Still, I can't believe he moved on so quickly. Any thoughts? Has anyone ever moved on that quickly and was it successful? I've been crying myself to sleep ever since I found out.
Orianne Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 You're situation does seem a little odd. Most dumpers aren't going to move on the night of the breakup unless cheating was involved--have you considered that your ex may have lied to you about when they met the new person?
cincinnatikid Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Hi Ms. Understood, I dont presume to be a genius but I can tell you from experience. Any woman (or in your case a man) who can do this easily a) is not right for you and b) definitely not right for you. We are all unique people with amazing qualities. Anyone who does this frankly does not deserve your time or those gifts. Think of it this way. You are spending your time crying yourself to sleep. God knows I have for one reason or the other. But, by doing so, you are giving your power away to someone who doesn't deserve it. No one can make you feel bad except you. Do you want to give someone that much power over you? I highly doubt that you do. Give yourself some time. Crying is healing. It shows you that you are human and vulnerable and that is good thing. It's good because you recognize your ability to feel. Conversely, whoever your existing other is, his actions have shown that he does not. Or, if he does, he is simply running from whatever it is to something else without taking a look at the mirror. I pity the woman who falls for this character next. I wish you the best.
madball2289 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 if that's the case he is not worth your time. If he met someone the next night that shows you how much he didn't care about you
Saint Santo Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 if that's the case he is not worth your time. If he met someone the next night that shows you how much he didn't care about you it can also show how much he does care, how he is quickly trying to fill the void with something/someone else. if someone doesn't care at all, they won't need to instantly hook up with someone else. but that doesn't make the behavior any less hurtful.
Author MsUnderstood Posted February 28, 2012 Author Posted February 28, 2012 Thanks for the responses. Each one of you helped me think about things and today I feel better. I really appreciate you taking the time to write - I truly do. Clearly he is not right for me. Cheating didn't cross my mind, but I wouldn't put it past him. His actions are deplorable. I can't think of anyone but himself who thinks what he did was ok.
WildHorses Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I'm pretty sure your guy has been speaking to this other girl while you two were dating. Same thing happened to me. These men would not just end something like this, without being sure that the other girl was interested. These type of men that do this, same goes for women, are not worth our time. Find positive people to surround yourself with. Your life is going to be more rewarding without a jerk like him in your life.
madball2289 Posted February 28, 2012 Posted February 28, 2012 I think that any self-respecting person takes time to heal for at least a little bit. If they move on that fast, then they were probably thinking about ending it before the relationship was officially over.
Pat99 Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Tend to agree here, sounds like he may have been cheating on you in the first place. Cheaters feel little remorse if any about being with someone else. If he truly loved you, then moving on in less than 24 hours seems rather desperate and he's not able to deal with his emotions. I know a similar situation though the timing of the guy moving on was several days after his breakup. Turns out, the girls dad found out and thought the guy was a louse for being able to move on so quickly from his last relationship and discouraged his daughter from seeing him again. If you are spiritual know this: The girl he met was a gift from God to you and not him. She opened your eyes up to him. Let this be and be thankful for her.
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