Biting.fairy Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 So my boyfriend and I have known each other for 4 years, but we've only been together for about 4 months. He's in the army so we don't see each other as often as we'd like as he spends most of his time at camp. This year he's going on tour to Afghanistan for 6 months. And I'm obviously really worried about him going. It's his 3rd tour since I've known him, but it's his first since we've been together. We talk about most things, but I don't know if I should talk to him about how I feel. I'm really worried about him going away, and I don't know how I will cope with him being away for so long. I don't want him to worry about me whilst he's out there because him concentrating on his job is more important. I really want to talk to him about how I'm feeling, I just don't know if I should It's stressful enough for him to be going there and leaving everyone for 6 months and I don't want to add to it or make it worse for him because I know he's going to find it hard saying goodbye, not just to me and his family, but now my 3yr old who see's him as her 2nd daddy. I don't want him to think that I don't care, but everytime we talk about him going away I change the subject. I'm scared that if we talk about it too much I'm going to start freaking out and add more stress and worry to what he's already got. I want to talk to him about how I feel and my worries, I just don't want to make things worse for him. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Yes, talk to him. Make it more about him though and less about you. So tell him that you are concerned for him because you care for him and want him to be okay. Be understanding also, that you know this is what he wants to do and are not pressuring him to stay or change anything. That you just wanted to be honest with him. See what he says.
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