crossfitter Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Been about a year since I last made a thread about a girl I was seeing (and got tons of responses, you guys/gals are great), and I feel like I've grown by leaps and bounds in terms of meeting new women and dating in the earliest stages, but I still have an issue with wearing my heart on my sleeve past a certain point in a relationship and maintaining an appropriate level of levelheadedness. I've been dating this girl I met online for a little over a month, and we live about an hour apart, so we've just been meeting every weekend. Every date has been great (been on 6 total), lots of interest on both our parts up front, done the deed, etc, etc. One spot where I think we went too quick was being together for a couple of days at a single time; was a bit too soon for something that major, imho, but I went against my better judgment and went along for the ride anyway. I tend to get caught up easily (see my last thread), but I had been doing pretty well until after it seemed like she thought we were moving pretty fast and wanted to slow it up a bit. I have met her parents and got along ok, but we 'cleared up' some things recently that we both, apparently, misinterpreted as meaning something more. We both kinda just laughed it off, but I mentioned wanting to see her more in the future anyway, hoping to show that I was still interested. I'm feeling that I came off a bit needy saying that so early in this thing, but sometimes my mouth gets the best of me. I know that I like spending time with this girl, and I've enjoyed getting to know her, but I feel like I have a knot in my stomach because I'm afraid I'm blowing it, or going to blow it, by being needy. Does anyone else just fall face-flat for someone too early in a relationship? How would you rebuild your frame of mind to be less dependent on that amazing feeling when the person you're interested in gives you attention, so that you're not feeling like crap when things slow down or stop altogether? Thanks for reading, I know it was long.
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