drew605 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I've been talking to a girl from my university for 3 weeks, I thought she was into me but she was very confusing yesterday I asked her what she was up to and she started going on about how she had a date but she cancelled and she was planning to go for drinks with him and then sleep it off at his place. So I played it off and asked how she was planning to pull that past her parents and teased her because she sounded easy. After some casual conversation, I asked whats on her mind and she started talking about her ex bf and how he was her first for everything, how she missed him sometimes and how he was a personal trainer...(Like i needed to know...) She also sets or agrees to date after date and then cancels...we have had a date every week for the past 3 weeks and have another next week O.o... I just accept it her cancellations and every time figure shes not interested but eventually she just sets another.
anaksunamun34 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 i think shes still thinkin about her ex bf.. and it seems she couldnt forget him.. now answer mine http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/315592-would-u-marry-guy-talkin-random-women-next-2-u-answer
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Unfortunately, college is full of empty-headed chicks. Ironic, isn't it? She's a flake and she likes to talk about past dudes she banged/wants to bang. I have a feeling she's already friendzoned you. She might have sex with you when she's drunk or bored. But afterward, she'll cut you off because there's no chemistry. My advice: find a level-headed college chick. They are out there. Start searching your campus.
joystickd Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Leave that one alone and find someone else. Man up and quit hanging around her. If she wants you she will know where to find you.
eleanorhurting Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I think you are in the friendzone Don't make yourself too available to her and just have fun with yourself and with other people.
Author drew605 Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 I thought about that but if I was the friend zone why are her date suggestions so date like, the first one she canceled was sushi (her idea), the second a movie and dinner (my idea), the third (dinner) and next week she want to go drinking and wants to get drunk. If I were friend zone why wouldn't she just want to hang out and play video games or walk around the mall at random times...not a week in advance. Also, when I seemed ok with her having cancelled a date with another guy and started teasing her for sleeping over she instantly started defending herself by claiming he was just a friend and nothing would happen ...contradicting her previous statements of having a date with a fun, attractive guy...she never called him a friend.
InJest Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I've got a better question. If you're not in the friendzone, then why does she keep cancelling?
Author drew605 Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 I've got a better question. If you're not in the friendzone, then why does she keep cancelling? She has a ton of excuses, mid terms, shes sick, she stayed up all night so she wants to sleep =/
InJest Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Heard it all before. Excuses are just that. She is not interested. Cut off contact and it's possible she will become interested, but still not a sure thing. Next time she contacts your just tell her straight that you want to date her and if she has no intention of that then she should leave you alone.
Author drew605 Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 Heard it all before. Excuses are just that. She is not interested. Cut off contact and it's possible she will become interested, but still not a sure thing. Next time she contacts your just tell her straight that you want to date her and if she has no intention of that then she should leave you alone. Well, I forgot to mention she seems very introverted (not 100% sure since she will go on webcam but refuses to use her mic claiming her parents will hear) I know she doesn't have many friends, she has already told me that and she was scared of boys at 15 (shes 20 now). So seeing as her last and first bf was a personal trainer (yeah right), I'm thinking he may not have existed and she may have canceled because she was shy and thinks she can use alcohol to get over her nerves with this new drinking date... But i might be thinking to hard.I do like her so cutting off friendship seems mean considering her lack of friends...its driving me crazy.
InJest Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Like I said, tell her how you feel and let her decide. She's not interested because you are a pussy. Who cares if it's mean to sever ties with her(it's not, btw)?? You aren't getting what you want from your interaction with her, so stop it. Make her deal with you on your terms or not deal with you at all. Simple.
Old Flame Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Hey, i treat girls like my socks. I just call when i want, show up if i want, leave when i want, and change from one to the next without considering their feelings. I don't get caught up in the like or love game. I use them for whatever. Just because you go out with a girl, or sleep with a girl, it doesn't mean anything unless you have a mutual inderstanding. I'm always mystified by all this "relationship" talk. You hang out, and if it grows, it grows, if not, move on.
Author drew605 Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 Hey, i treat girls like my socks. I just call when i want, show up if i want, leave when i want, and change from one to the next without considering their feelings. I don't get caught up in the like or love game. I use them for whatever. Just because you go out with a girl, or sleep with a girl, it doesn't mean anything unless you have a mutual inderstanding. I'm always mystified by all this "relationship" talk. You hang out, and if it grows, it grows, if not, move on. Do you have dirty socks?
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