ditzchic Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Hey guys. So I was a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding yesterday. One of the groomsmen was a guy I never met before. He was from out of town, very cute and a ton of fun. He started hitting on me pretty hard immediately after the ceremony. He initiated pretty much all of the flirting. At the reception he kept asking me to dance, was feeding me drinks all night, was getting really really touchy kept calling me "baby girl" and we kissed a little bit. He was talking a lot about how compatible we were and stuff that we could do on dates. He seemed really into me. Well the end of the night rolls around and I told him that I was going to leave the reception and go out with some other friends and asked him if he wanted to join. He says (paraphrasing because I was pretty hammered) "You're an amazing girl and I feel so attracted to you but to be honest I have a girlfriend and I'm not a cheater." Ok. He was grabbing on my butt and kissed me, thats kind of cheating but it's whatever, I thanked him for his honesty and told him to have a safe drive home then started to walk away. He grabbed me and pulled me back and goes "That's it? You're just gonna walk away?". I said "Yep. What else is there to do? I'm not getting involved in drama tonight or anytime soon." he asked if I was mad at him. I said I didnt know him well enough to have anything to be mad about. And I walked out of the bar room. We had already added each on facebook and exchanged numbers at this point. He started texting me a few hours later saying how awesome I am and that he's so sorry. It's bad timing, whatever. He's texted me 3 times today. I haven't responded at all. He tagged me in a fb post this am about how much fun he had last night. I dont know what to do.. I don't want to get involved in relationship drama. That's why I'm ignoring him. Is it really bad timing, though? Is it worth it to keep in minimal touch with him thinking maybe sometime in the future? Or is he just trying to backburner me in case his actual girlfriend finds out he kisses other girls and she dumps him? Whats going on?!?
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Don't try to figure him out. Just keep ignoring him. He screwed up by flirting with you to the point of second base then cutting you off when you wanted to take things further. That sucker is just gonna have to deal with it.
anaksunamun34 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 hes like my bf (ex bf) he was flirting other women next to me but later on crying and tellin me how much he loved me etc just ignore him .. if u give him a chance probably hell go and cheat on u with another girl too .. now answer mine pls http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/315592-would-u-marry-guy-talkin-random-women-next-2-u-answer
Imajerk17 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 He already cheated. And unless his next message to you is "I broke up with my girlfriend" you ought to keep ignoring him. Kudos for walking away from him at the end of the reception. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 He wasn't being honest with you, he was testing the waters to see how stupid and vulnerable you are to his situation. He wanted you to react like "oh well...let's hook up anyway", that's why he spun all of his charm while you didn't know...because he knows that if he told you before all of that it would have turned you off. This guy is extremely easy to figure out, his game is weak and obvious. His objective is to win you over with his charm and attention (that would only last for a while but only needs to until he gets you in bed), then put on the breaks and tell you how he can't leave his gf even though they are having problems or what not, he's going to try and work it out. He doesn't want a relationship with you, he's in one already, he's just looking for some booty. And since he's an experienced cheater he's learned that telling women up front is better for him because he doesn't have to keep secrets or feel bad when he pulls away since you already knew. You see this as honesty, when this is just part of your setup. It's not bad timing, he's trying to play you for a fool. He wouldn't be in a relationship with you, and even If by some chance he would pretend to try and be in the future he'd just cheat on you the same way..what do you think a guy just cheats once in a while? no they cheat over and over and over on everyone, and you're just one bird in the flock. Do yourself a favor and stop being so naive to this guys charm, find out who his gf is, send her a nice little message of what happened, and save both of you the wasted time of being with this douche who thinks he's a player. Bad timing? ha!! perfect timing for some side action for him. 2
Ruby Slippers Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 He already cheated. And unless his next message to you is "I broke up with my girlfriend" you ought to keep ignoring him. Kudos for walking away from him at the end of the reception. Yes, he did already cheat. And I wouldn't have anything to do with him no matter what. Now you know, right off the bat, that he's a cheater. He'd cheat on you, too. You can do better. 1
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