Lost in my own mind where do I go?

[RonChalant]

It's been 3.5 months now since she left me. Honestly I'm doing pretty well, talking to a new girl, confidence level is higher than it's ever been, women seem to be drawn to me these days...most importantly I actually like who I am which is something I've never been able to say before.

 

Thing is...I can't get her out of my head. She is still a daily topic in my mind, sometimes for hours at a time. I don't really think about the fact that she left me, I'm actually over that, it's the way she did it, the things she said, and...just the entire way she went about things. When I'm not t honking about that it's just her in gen. We were together 7 years so I guess that's just part of it, but I just want to get her out of my head, is there a way?

 

I have dreams about her faithfully. These days they are about us making up in gen, other times it's about us getting back together, lately it's been about her and her new man together and I happen to be around. A few weeks ago we had a short text convo where I told her I had no desire to speak with or be friends with her...she wanted to be friends and I wasn't having it. I also told her the chances of us getting back together if her and him ever broke up were nonexistent due to the circumstances, long story short we would never see each other again.

 

Another issue is I miss my damn dog she has him and because I don't want to see or talk to her, I just can never see my dog. What to do what to do

[Numb79]

I can only imagine what you are going through. I too cannot get the thought of my Ex out of my head. I can completely understand when you said that you will never see her again. I think that is where I have the biggest challenge.

I have known my Ex for 12 yrs. 7 of them as friends and another 5 in a relationship. It saddens to know that someone that has been apart of your life for so long will no longer be there. Its as if we are expected to pretend that it never happened. I wish I can help you with your situation but to be honest I cannot. I am only a month into my break up so everything is still fresh. The only thing I do that I think helps is that I tell myself that "things will get better" I tell myself this every night before I go to bed and whenever else I feel is necessary.

Most people have troubles at night before they go to sleep. I actually have no problem falling asleep. Its sleeping through an entire night is what bothers me. I find myself waking up every night with thoughts of her running through my mind. Mornings are the worse..... it feels like the cycle just starts all over again.

People say to keep busy and find things to get your mind off the situation. Well, I recently broke my foot and I basically just lay on the couch and watch TV. I cannot even get out of the house to do anything. I am just as lost as you are right now, if not more.

To be honest, why do I even care? She was the one that walked out of my life.... why should I feel this way when she herself has no problem with it? I can't believe I let all my hopes and dreams get taken away by one person. How did you end up coping with the situation? I'm sorry if my response is somewhat all over the place.... I don't even know how to make sense of anything right now.

[Mr Scorpio]

No, there is no way to magically remove your ex from your head. You can do your best to keep them out of your mind while you are awake, but they can always sneak in while you are asleep. Three months, three years, sometimes it doesn't seem to matter how much time has elapsed.