PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 when reading their profile online. WHO CARES???????????????? I'm not an employer so why should I care that you have a master's degree? if I met a woman in a bar would she tell me that she just completed grad school? Dating is getting so sickening and that's why the fetish lifestyle never gets old Ladies men don't care about your master's degree OK???
denise_xo Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Ladies men don't care about your master's degree OK??? Actually, my H cared quite a lot about that when we met. He was worried about it because he didn't have one and felt like he wasn't 'good enough'. He got over it though
Soxfaninfl Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Me personally I would prefer a women with an education. I have a bachelors degree, and I prefer to date a women that has a good job and makes a decent living. I'm not looking for someone to support. These days you need two incomes to get by if you want to have kids.
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 Actually, my H cared quite a lot about that when we met. He was worried about it because he didn't have one and felt like he wasn't 'good enough'. He got over it though They may care about it if they are already POKING you but if they don't know you it's not a requirement. What man on this planet wouldn't have SEX with a female if she didn't go to college?-LOL
sweetjasmine Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Actually, my H cared quite a lot about that when we met. He was worried about it because he didn't have one and felt like he wasn't 'good enough'. He got over it though My fiance cared, too, and now he's getting his own, so I'm going to go ahead and care about his as well. In all seriousness, though, I don't see what the big deal is if someone puts their education on their profile. I have talked about grad school with people I was just getting to know - it's come up organically in conversations. I don't see what the problem is. If someone's bragging about it, and it's off-putting, then just move on. 1
Soxfaninfl Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 They may care about it if they are already POKING you but if they don't know you it's not a requirement. What man on this planet wouldn't have SEX with a female if she didn't go to college?-LOL If your looking for a long term partner or marriage. If I'm just looking for a hookup then that is a different story.
Jane2011 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 The last guy I dated (who I met from OkCupid) told me he actually put "has graduate degree" in his search criteria. He said he'd date someone without a Master's degree easily, but preferred a woman with one [("it can be an indicator," he said), so he'd look in that pool of people first]. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 Me personally I would prefer a women with an education. I have a bachelors degree, and I prefer to date a women that has a good job and makes a decent living. I'm not looking for someone to support. These days you need two incomes to get by if you want to have kids. College yes but a Master's doesn't need to be mentioned
sweetjasmine Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 College yes but a Master's doesn't need to be mentioned ...why not? Who decides what does and doesn't need to be mentioned? People put on there what they want to share. What's the problem?
ctes300 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 The last guy I dated (who I met from OkCupid) told me he actually put "has graduate degree" in his search criteria. He said he'd date someone without a Master's degree easily, but preferred a woman with one [("it can be an indicator," he said), so he'd look in that pool of people first]. I find its harder to find a woman with 'just' a BA/BS. OkC is full of master's and PhD's.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 College yes but a Master's doesn't need to be mentioned Someone should not write about it and boast about it. You then seem conceeded. I would simple select it in your education section as your highest level completed.
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 ...why not? Who decides what does and doesn't need to be mentioned? People put on there what they want to share. What's the problem? Because it's stupid that's why. All they have to say is they went to college.
denise_xo Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Because it's stupid that's why. All they have to say is they went to college. Can you explain why exactly you find it stupid?
sweetjasmine Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Because it's stupid that's why. All they have to say is they went to college. Why's it stupid? What does it matter to you if someone puts it in their profile? If you find it irrelevant, then is it really such a huge deal that somebody put it on there anyway? Who decides what they "have to" say? I've never done online dating, but if I had to, I would appreciate it if somebody mentions any advanced or professional degrees they might have because I think it gives me more insight into who they are and where they're coming from. I guess I don't understand why on earth you're so worked up over something like this. Is it really a problem for you if somebody adds something extra to their profile that you don't even care about? 4
Jane2011 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 (edited) Also, even if they did want to brag, why can't people brag a little? They're trying to sell themselves, so to speak, on dating sites. It only makes sense they'd include some accolades/achievements. Don't condemn people for trying to be admired and liked; that's the whole point of the dating site. I've put "run three marathons" on my profile before (because I have...woohoo!) The last guy I dated didn't brag about a Master's degree, but I noticed his profile seemed to go overboard in how versatile he was. Cooking. Dancing. Philosophy. All kinds of interests. And he did have all those interests and more. But I'm more inclined to undersell myself a bit, even if I have a lot to offer. I thought his profile said a bit too much. That said, I don't blame people for maximizing their perceived assets. There's a saying...if you got it, flaunt it. I'm totally envious of women with big boobs, but I don't blame them one iota for going around with insane levels of cleavage. They look good! Edited February 26, 2012 by Jane2011
johan Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I would have a similar reaction if I felt it disqualified me from dating them. If it made me feel inadequate, because I didn't have a similar achievement of my own. 4
kaylan Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 when reading their profile online. WHO CARES???????????????? I'm not an employer so why should I care that you have a master's degree? if I met a woman in a bar would she tell me that she just completed grad school? Dating is getting so sickening and that's why the fetish lifestyle never gets old Ladies men don't care about your master's degree OK??? Plenty of educated men actually admire an educated woman. Are you intimidated or insecure that a woman may have more educattion than you? Personally I give a woman props for wanting to educate herself and make her own money. Btw, almost everyone (men and women) with credentials mentions it in their profile so they can find someone similar or just to put out important info about themselves. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 Why's it stupid? What does it matter to you if someone puts it in their profile? If you find it irrelevant, then is it really such a huge deal that somebody put it on there anyway? Who decides what they "have to" say? I've never done online dating, but if I had to, I would appreciate it if somebody mentions any advanced or professional degrees they might have because I think it gives me more insight into who they are and where they're coming from. I guess I don't understand why on earth you're so worked up over something like this. Is it really a problem for you if somebody adds something extra to their profile that you don't even care about? I don't know maybe going out of their way to IMPRESS me with something that is irrelevant? Looks and personality is much more important. You have a master's and ugly then what?
ffw Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Beside what others already mentioned, do you want to them to write "I am just a simple girl"? Personally, I like to hear about what a girl likes doing. Not just "I like shopping. I like staying home". I am not into online dating, but I think you are making a big fuss out of it.
kaylan Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 They may care about it if they are already POKING you but if they don't know you it's not a requirement. What man on this planet wouldn't have SEX with a female if she didn't go to college?-LOL You do realize that women dont care about a guys education if they just wanna screw him and loose him right? All that would matter is if she gets him going. Btw...what you said in your OP about someone mentioning their education in a bar....well no one does that...so get real. Online dating is different...you offer up a PROFILE of yourself.
johan Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I don't know maybe going out of their way to IMPRESS me with something that is irrelevant? Looks and personality is much more important. You have a master's and ugly then what? What is irrelevant to you is automatically irrelevant to everyone else?
zengirl Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I believe most dating profiles actually prompt you to list level of education in the stats. Why would someone list Bachelors if they'd completed a graduate program? Additionally, many times when people go back for post-graduate work (maybe not as true now when people are turning to it for job re-training but still mostly true), they are deeply interested in the subject of study and it is a big part of their lives. This is pretty much always true of a PhD and most terminal degrees (JDs, PhDs, MDs, MBA, etc) will define a person quite a lot, both professionally and personally. What you spend a HUGE chunk of your day doing and a huge chunk of your life studying of course impacts who you are. I suppose it depends what a person writes. If a person were to make their MA sound like they'd won a Noble or something, I'd find that odd. I have had an MA for years, it was mentioned in my OKC profile (from which I met several long-term partners, including my hubby), as was it mentioned that I was pursuing my PhD---since my MEd and my PhD define a big part of who I am and what I do day-to-day (work and research in education), it seems like it makes sense to me in describing myself. My job (at the time, I was a teacher) was also up there---again, part of who I am/was. I don't imagine most men or women require a Masters degree to date someone, no, but it's just one more descriptor of who that person is and what they've done and are doing with their lives. It definitely tells a lot about a person and who they are (particularly what they studied will give you some understanding of their interests and something to talk about at first!). I don't think it's someone trying to "impress" people most of the time. 3
Jane2011 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Actually, the fact that she likes being in school is a part of her personality. It's a hobby of hers. Some people don't have that many hobbies, but they like being in school, so it's sort of "their thing." Or they do have a lot of hobbies, and one of them is being in school - it's still "their thing." You should know that about them. I definitely want to know what level of education a guy has. Looks and personality are the most important thing to me, too, but education level does have an influence on personality. Most people want to know if they're dating someone who didn't graduate high school vs. someone who did vs. someone who went to college and finished vs. someone who went to college and didn't finish. I bet many would call that a reasonable thing to want to know. But somehow knowing someone has a Master's degree (them providing that information) is them being pretentious and bragging. That's kinda crazy. I don't have a PhD, but I still want a PhD guy to tell me has a PhD. I want to know that he's one of "those" guys, lol...
Author PhillyDude Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 I believe most dating profiles actually prompt you to list level of education in the stats. Why would someone list Bachelors if they'd completed a graduate program? Additionally, many times when people go back for post-graduate work (maybe not as true now when people are turning to it for job re-training but still mostly true), they are deeply interested in the subject of study and it is a big part of their lives. This is pretty much always true of a PhD and most terminal degrees (JDs, PhDs, MDs, MBA, etc) will define a person quite a lot, both professionally and personally. What you spend a HUGE chunk of your day doing and a huge chunk of your life studying of course impacts who you are. I suppose it depends what a person writes. If a person were to make their MA sound like they'd won a Noble or something, I'd find that odd. I have had an MA for years, it was mentioned in my OKC profile (from which I met several long-term partners, including my hubby), as was it mentioned that I was pursuing my PhD---since my MEd and my PhD define a big part of who I am and what I do day-to-day (work and research in education), it seems like it makes sense to me in describing myself. My job (at the time, I was a teacher) was also up there---again, part of who I am/was. I don't imagine most men or women require a Masters degree to date someone, no, but it's just one more descriptor of who that person is and what they've done and are doing with their lives. It definitely tells a lot about a person and who they are (particularly what they studied will give you some understanding of their interests and something to talk about at first!). I don't think it's someone trying to "impress" people most of the time. Maybe I should be more annoyed with the site for having a section for it rather than the woman
norajane Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I don't know maybe going out of their way to IMPRESS me with something that is irrelevant? Looks and personality is much more important. You have a master's and ugly then what? Clearly, they are NOT trying to impress YOU or others like you. And it's working - you are weeding yourself out of their potential dating pool and saving them the trouble of doing so, which means they don't have to waste their time on you . 2
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