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EX contacted me in a fixed pattern. i picked up his call out of politeness.

Then one night, i was drunk, with the help of alcohol, i asked him not to contact me once again in a bitter tone. during the argument, he said he kept contacting me because he felt guilty about me. i thought it was due to the strong feeling he had for me.

never mind, what's the point of struggling with how he thought about me.

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BTW, he did the pity thing for over a year. what the hell? i don't deserve this pity/

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Calling for over a year is not done out of pity. He was likely using it to relieve his own guilt as he felt bad for hurting you. This is not pity. If he truly cared he would give you space to heal and grow.

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Calling for over a year is not done out of pity. He was likely using it to relieve his own guilt as he felt bad for hurting you. This is not pity. If he truly cared he would give you space to heal and grow.

 

Calling for over a year doesn't mean he does care, just not in any way beneficial to nana or himself. It's misguided and primarily self centered caring, and if he pities anyone, it's himself for feeling guilty.

 

But he should know that he's not doing you any favors by calling you. Hopefully he got the message, but if he didn't, just go back to not answering his calls.

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Calling for over a year doesn't mean he does care, just not in any way beneficial to nana or himself. It's misguided and primarily self centered caring, and if he pities anyone, it's himself for feeling guilty.

 

But he should know that he's not doing you any favors by calling you. Hopefully he got the message, but if he didn't, just go back to not answering his calls.

Ah I can see why it was read that way. My meaning was if he truly wanted the best for her he would give her space.

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Thank you for your comments.

He isn't calling me anymore. I guess finally he got the message.

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