PullingMeDown Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone, I met a woman online, we were exchanging messages back and forth. She had no picture but her profile was cool and every message she sent me made her somewhat more interesting. When we exchanged facebook links after 2 weeks, I also saw her pretty pictures (I would have even dated her "blind"). After one more week we finally met in person. We share goals, attitudes, how life should go on. We had fun but also talked about topics which are usually not "1st date compatible", but obviously we both felt it was right. Considering conversation it was a good evening. HOWEVER, I was so impressed and emotionally caught off guard (I didnt expect anything even close to this) that I probably completely f*cked it up. Despite her giving me as many signals of interest as humanly possible (kissing me on cheek telling me I was smelling good, physically teasing me, putting her arm on my shoulder as support when she tried to stand on a frozen surface, smiling like the entire evening, eye contact, genuinely interested in what I do in work, teasing me with her clothing, chewing gum...) I was passive and didnt even take her hand or kiss her. I only acted "correctly" once when she touched her cheek telling me she was warm I also did and confirmed. Before the failed goodbye where I hugged her (...) I was asking whether we'd see us again and she agreed. Due to her exams she set a certain date though when she'd be available again. Since then we are writing again on the same frequency as before. As she is still online on the dating site on a daily basis(actively searching I guess) I'm completely unsure whether I failed already or if she really will give me another shot on the 2nd date to do the right things...the date (clarify: the date her exams end, I have not setup the 2nd date yet as I feel its not appriopriate due to the large time frame) is about 2 weeks from now and it feels like an eternity. what do you think? thanks for reading, nice sunday everyone. Edited February 26, 2012 by PullingMeDown
Ruby Slippers Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 Yeah, sorry to say, you really dropped the ball by not reciprocating the physical affection. What are you waiting for? I think your only hope it to make a 2nd date pronto, and, as Olivia Newton John said,
Seneca Posted March 2, 2012 Posted March 2, 2012 HOWEVER, I was so impressed and emotionally caught off guard (I didnt expect anything even close to this) that I probably completely f*cked it up. Despite her giving me as many signals of interest as humanly possible (kissing me on cheek telling me I was smelling good, physically teasing me, putting her arm on my shoulder as support when she tried to stand on a frozen surface, smiling like the entire evening, eye contact, genuinely interested in what I do in work, teasing me with her clothing, chewing gum...) I was passive and didnt even take her hand or kiss her. I only acted "correctly" once when she touched her cheek telling me she was warm I also did and confirmed. Before the failed goodbye where I hugged her (...) I was asking whether we'd see us again and she agreed. Due to her exams she set a certain date though when she'd be available again. Since then we are writing again on the same frequency as before. As she is still online on the dating site on a daily basis(actively searching I guess) I'm completely unsure whether I failed already or if she really will give me another shot on the 2nd date to do the right things...the date (clarify: the date her exams end, I have not setup the 2nd date yet as I feel its not appriopriate due to the large time frame) is about 2 weeks from now and it feels like an eternity. How did you fail? What are some of the right things you plan on doing for the 2nd date? Failed goodbye? What is a successful goodbye then? If she's online searching... what are you doing?
Author PullingMeDown Posted March 3, 2012 Author Posted March 3, 2012 thanks for your input. I failed to overcome my shyness to respond to crystal clear signals. I'm not a "dating expert" and despite being a decent looking and somewhat cool guy it rarely happens that a woman is interested in me especially such a wonderful being. I plan to take her hand when we walk, stroke her hair during conversation and kiss her goodbye after bringing her home. In the described scenario I should have DEFINATELY kissed her. Everything else is plain fail. Didnt search more contacts in the last few weeks. I'm not desperate (love the word) and also got other things to do. However I can't deny that I think about her a little too much I guess.
veggirl Posted March 3, 2012 Posted March 3, 2012 Yes please kiss her next time. i don't know about the hair stroking though Call her now to set up the next date!! Have you guys been talking in the meantime? even if your date isn't for a couple weeks, are you keeping in regular contact?
Author PullingMeDown Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 hey, actually yeah, we are wrinting an a daily basis via facebook and whatsapp. I also called her in between and we were talking a bit. Set up our next date now whats wrong with stroking her hair??
Author PullingMeDown Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 any advice on the stroking thing?^^ basically this link sums it up a bit: How To Touch a Woman to Drive Her Wild some of it is probably too much for the current state of our "relation"?
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