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Have you noticed a pattern of behavior that hurts your relationships? If so, have you found any solutions or compromises? How well do you stick to these solutions?

What is important to you in a relationship?

 

My answers:

No having enough time to see my partner. I have to wait until college is over. It isn't working, but I have to try again soon.

 

Fear of abandonment. I enjoy my time with people while they are there. I do okay at this, except I don't always have enough time for them or I feel like having an introverted night in.

 

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Acceptance is important, because I'm myself no matter what. Compassion is also good, it says this is a nice person who has a deeper ethical understanding of being a nice person.

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patterns:

 

1-putting up with too much garbage and staying while they treat me like garbage.

2-Not being able to find a medium between my faults and little them treat me badly. I am very sensitive. When men to things to hurt me, I tell myself, that I should cut them slack because I am overeacting...because I am so sensitive...so I do. But them I do too much and they take advantage of me.

 

Solutions:

1-therapy...I went before (I will go back when I can afford to get there).

 

2-Self help books

 

3-Having a relationship with myself and not looking for men.

 

4-Trying to make a good life for myself on my own....a life I can be proud of.

 

That is what I am doing.

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What is important? Trust, attraction, and common interests.

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