MizHoney2U Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Hello again, Its been a couple of months since I visited the forum. last time I was learning about and understanding NC and working my blank off to get over a guy I recently ended a relationship with... it has been just about a week over a year now since we stopped seeing each other and the wierdest things are happening.... I noticed that I missed a call from a private number around 4:30am Valentine day. Then I receive a call from the same about a week later... it was him just calling to see how everyone was, we chatted for a few min. later I had a vm from him telling me that he was calling me back like he said he would do...( in the past he would sometimes not call as he said he would )... then a while later that evening, I get another call from a private number which I refused to answer. I know some of you are saying that I should let it go, but at least I'm not being available to him. My question is this... what could he possibly want to call and chat with me about after a year??? I think the next time he calls I will just call him out and ask why and what? I was deeply in love with this man and I'm not sure he even knew how much, but I had to let him go because he did not contribute as much as he could after he seemed to become "comfortable" that I would be around. Trust and believe that after all this time I still am not completely over him, but I have gotten to the point that it wasn't meant to be.
Exit Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 None of us know what he wants, seems like you're fishing a little bit by asking that question and hoping someone will say "obviously he wants you back!". Nothing is obvious at this point, and I think you may already know the best way to go about it, by asking him what he wants. Or the other alternative is rather than putting yourself in the vulnerable position of appearing interested enough to even ask what it's about, just keep missing the calls and letting him leave voicemails until he finally works up the nerve to say exactly what he's calling about. If he's had some huge revelation that he wants to be with you, he's certainly lacking the courage to say it. But waiting for him to open up might mean weeks or months of private calls, I personally would just ask the person without making it sound like I care that much. Just tell him the private calls are silly and people don't just reappear in each others lives after a year for no good reason and ask him what is on his mind. He should either be calling for a reason or stop calling.
Mr Scorpio Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I'm sorry but your post is confusing to me. So you loved this person deeply, but you had to let him go because he wasn't contributing as much as he could have? Who ever contributes as much as they could have on a regular basis? What could be possibly want to call and chat about after a year? Anything. However, if you really believe that it "wasn't meant to be", then what does it matter what he wants to talk about?
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