SJC2008 Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I've been on 3 dates with the woman I'm seeing and I want to start to get past general conversation with her the next time I see her. I'm not going to spill my guts but I want to tell her more about who I am. Do women appreciate things like this? I am very big on communication and I just want to show her that I am interested and want to get to know her on a deeper level.
polcas Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I've been on 3 dates with the woman I'm seeing and I want to start to get past general conversation with her the next time I see her. I'm not going to spill my guts but I want to tell her more about who I am. Do women appreciate things like this? I am very big on communication and I just want to show her that I am interested and want to get to know her on a deeper level. I think it's a little too early to show her that you're interested or better said to TELL her that you're interested. It's usually better to let the woman bring up these topics especially on the first dates. If you really need to go there you can do it playfully for example teasing her as if she doesn't have serious relationships, she can't handle intimacy or those sorts of things but very light-hearted and in a joking way, only if you need to get into those subjects. The thing is she's going out with you on several dates so she's interested and that's good enough. Another way to show her that you're interested is to really pay attention to what she says, what she does, her goals, etc and ask her a lot about her feelings regarding the things she likes and enjoys. You being really interested in her as a person will show her the type of relationship you're pursuing. Of course keep moving forward on the physical level as well. Good luck!!
Author SJC2008 Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 I see what you are saying and like I said I'm not going to spill my guts as we just met. I just feel so behind the times when it comes these sort of things. It seems like people just wind up in relationships and these things just happen. I guess I'll just go with the flow.
FitChick Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Instead of your past, you should be talking about what your goals and dreams are for the future to see how they match up with hers. If you want to get married and have kids right away and she wants to dig for diamonds in Africa or sail solo around the world, you might not be compatible.
Author SJC2008 Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 Ok humor me because of my lack of exp. Now most people meet their so's at work or school or through mutual friends so they kind of know each other already. I met her online so I don't see what's wrong of giving her a summary of "who I am" and about some future goals and a little of what I'm looking for. Now I remember in another thread fitchick said don't rattle off a check list, tell her what I like about her which I understand. I plan to be very casual about it, not interview-esque. The vibe I'm getting here is too much to soon. Also, I'm hoping this will open her up a little as she seems like she's in observe mode.
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