HollyBolly Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago from a 5-year relationship. Since then there had been NC until last night. I am in the unfortunate position of living RIGHT across the street from her, so that if I look out the window, I can tell if she's home or not by whether her car is there or not. I know I should really keep NC but the thought that she may be seeing someone else is killing me! I found out on the day that we broke up that this guy she fancied before also broke up with his gf that day. She has close to no friends so I'm left wondering where she is when I look out the window and don't see her car, when she's not at work. Our BU was a long time coming. Very tumultuous relationship. Toxic, even. My dog was hit by a car on Christmas and killed, and my ex showed next to no support at all. Then we went away for 2 weeks and 2 days after we came back, I broke up with her. The following day she ambushed me at the clinic where I was getting an ultrasound done and BEGGED me for my forgiveness and one last chance. I really gave it to her, i.e. how terrible she was when my dog died, how she never treated people with respect, how she used people, etc. She listened demurely and said that she was sorry and that she'd try to be a better person, blah, blah, blah... Then, on the day that we broke up last, I found out she had sent a very suggestive photo of her bare midriff to a mutual, married male friend of ours, just 5 days after she BEGGED for the one last chance. (I say male because we were in a lesbian relationship.) 3 weeks after that, she broke up with me over a slight disagreement. I feel like she begged me to go back just so she could be the dumper and not the dumped. If she had just stayed away that first time, I would be in a MUCH better place. Also, I cannot stop looking out that bloody window! Help! She has blocked me from seeing her posts and updates on FB but has not deleted me. What gives?
JJ72 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 5 years? Sounds like you've wasted enough of your life w/ this person. If the BU was "long time coming" and toxic at times, you really need to move on w/ your life. Easier said than done, but you have to. If it was me, I'd delete & block her on FB and move....you can't live across the street. Good luck and stay strong.
Author HollyBolly Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 Thank you. I am going to delete her but why block her, too? I'm not that fb savvy. Also, I want to wait a few days before I delete her, as I only just sent her that drunk text last night. Don't want her to think I care so much that I'm doing it out of spite.
JJ72 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Blocking her is part of NC. Doesn't really matter what she thinks. All that matters is you moving forward in your life 1
Author HollyBolly Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 Am now SO glad I txted her last night! If I hadn't done that, she wouldn't have run off to that skanky friend of hers, who thinks she knows FB so well. If that hadn't happened, ex wouldn't have changed her FB to Timeline. If she hadn't changed it to Timeline, she wouldn't have left her profile WIDE open! Oh, I can see that she is completely delusional with a personality disorder! Feel MUCH better now!
wilsonx Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 We all break NC! No worries! Practice makes perfect!
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