cecilia0524 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Okay, I don't get this. Can some of you tell me? I met this guy online roughly 3.5 months ago, where he started messaging me first. We had a few good long message exchanged, and he wanted to meet up. The first 3 times, yes 3 times, he cancelled based on reasons: 1) Last minute rehearsal for his acting show, 2) His grandma is dying, 3) His bank account did not process his paycheck which he cannot take me out. Since then, I completely lost interested, where until the last day of the year, he texted me saying what a jerk he was. I told him text is not a way to resolve issues. So he called me. On the call, he asked if I would like to meet some time the following week. We set up a plan, but not confirmed. The day came by, he postponed the original meet day to the following morning, where he traveled all the way (1.5 hrs commute he said) to my neighborhood to have breakfast with me at this fancy place. It went well. Second time we met at this beer tasting event he invited me to join, where he also invited his friend who came visit - awkward, and it just didn't make sense why he brought him. Anyway. He wanted to meet again so we set up a third meet, he never showed up on that third time, and wasted my time waiting at the meeting place. I completely got turned off, I didn't talk to him for about 3 weeks. Then recently he texted me again saying how he has been thinking about me, he hasn't been a real gentleman, blah blah. I replied, and he tried to set up another date. All these are through text. He suggested going for a movie, I replied, but he hasn't reply still. Today is the day he talked about meeting. What's wrong with this guy?
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Question is...what's wrong with you? Do you usually tolerate this kind of behavior from guys? If so I can imagine what you've been through as that's not respectful of yourself and your time and If that doesn't cross the line to a guy you just met I can only imagine what you'd be willing to do for a guy that paid half attention to you. I'm not sure why you're going around in circles with this guy, he's clearly not that interested in you and doesn't even take you seriously enough to take you on a date with another friend...as If It was some casual get-together. He knows he's being a douche bag, but because you're so flexible you're really just making it too easy and being too convenient. I'm really not sure what the hell you are doing, If someone did half the things this guy did to you I'd be pissed off beyond belief...I would have walked away from just about every single situation you've been placed in...so why wouldn't you? If this guy is being such an inconsiderate idiot now, imagine what he would be like in the future...and then you'd be crying about how he never does this or that, or flakes or doesn't seem like he really wants to invest in the relationship or only comes over when it's convenient for him. Drop this guy, ignore his texts...tell him to **** off and never invite a friend on a second date you ignorant douche. I'm not sure why you're afraid to tell this guy put his foot up his ass...even If you're not using those exact words. This guy isn't good for you and he's making it as clear as day, and for some reason you still want to make it work, don't tolerate this kind of behavior from men, it just makes them look down at you, you're playing a fool and you're not even in a relationship with this guy...which you should be thankful he hasn't decided to screw with your head that far, because you seem to have no problem being walked over. What a lame string of unbelievable lies, what wouldn't you believe? 3
TheFinalWord Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Nothing more to add, Ninja said it well. Perfect video for you:
Professor X Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Question is...what's wrong with you? Lol, like the first thing that came to my mind was this!
lospantalonsfancie Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Ninja said it very well. This guy clearly is messing with you and emotionally exploiting you on purpose, for whatever sick reason you will probably never know.You should have cut off contact with him the second time he canceled on you, if not the first. The fact that you have put up with this reveals your lack of self respect, as if you are bent over and telling him "please sir, gimme some more."
FitChick Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Question is...what's wrong with you? My thoughts exactly. We teach people how to treat us.
Author cecilia0524 Posted February 26, 2012 Author Posted February 26, 2012 Thank you guys. I agree with you all. I don't know why I am falling for this, honestly. But I will let go.
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