leoc1973 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I know we all read into breakups and what why how all that other stuff. I wonder sometimes if we drive ourselves nuts for nothing. Does anyone think that maybe these men/women do love us and have no intention of losing us in the long run and maybe its not GIGS or anything you did wrong at all? Maybe its because no matter what they do they don't think they can lose us? Maybe they just want to go have fun with someone else for a while knowing in their own heads that they love us and intend on coming back? Is this why it seems like they come running back sometimes soon as we meet someone new or it seems like we really are moving on? I guess what I am trying to say is does anyone think they are just taking advantage of our love and really do love us but just want to fool around for a while? Does this mean that if they could do something like breaking up with us to "find themselves" even tho they just wanna ride a different bike for a while with no intentions of losing us in the end mean that they don't truly love us because that is just something you can't do to someone you love. Lots of people cheat even though they still love and want to be with their current partner. Maybe they are just being more upfront about it and breaking up with you instead of running around behind your back. I am having a hard time trying to explain what I am thinking but I think most of you are smart enough to know what I mean. I know we try to psychoanalyse every single thing they do, we do and all that but maybe lots of times its more simple... they wanna fool around! Thoughts?
shamone222 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 i think it all depends on why they broke up. theres no real answer to that. a girl i us to go out with broke up with me over smothering her, said she needed space and that she thinks everything will be ok after some space. then she told me she doesnt know what she wants, then she said its over. i dated someone and in the space of a month she came crying back to me saying she didnt think i would move on so soon and that she always planned to get back together again. so yeh she realised the grass wasnt greener and came back making bad excuses.
Phanpooh Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 In fact, i dun care abt gigs, rebound or sth lame for their mistake, and try to give a false hope. I tried to learn some psychology stuff for almost few years, and i clearly understood what is gigs, or stuff around BU. But i know that love is more powerful than that. If they truly love u, they must be happy with every side of u. They leave u for more fun? And why we should think they will come back? When u r trying to live with ur pain in hell, where r they? In this case, i dun think love is enough. U must take ur self-respect back first. For me, when they left, they threw me to limo and my special things is "zero" in their eyes. So then, i could forgive them but how they can forgive themself? When they almost kill their love? For me, i dun need who dun need me, if they wanna back, that is their business, not mine...
wilsonx Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 There are a lot of good questions in this post and I am going to do my best to give an explanation from the other side. Maybe its because no matter what they do they don't think they can lose us? They aren't aware of what they are doing is wrong or in the future tense to be wrong, they leap without looking. Maybe they just want to go have fun with someone else for a while knowing in their own heads that they love us and intend on coming back? To me, this is true on a conscious level, they just aren't aware of it. Is this why it seems like they come running back sometimes soon as we meet someone new or it seems like we really are moving on? To me, this is just a timing issue, when you are really moving on, they are waking up I guess what I am trying to say is does anyone think they are just taking advantage of our love and really do love us but just want to fool around for a while? They aren't taking advantage of your love, they do want to fool around for a while, go out and try new things, etc. Their love switch is just turned off and the lust switch is turned on. Does this mean that if they could do something like breaking up with us to "find themselves" even tho they just wanna ride a different bike for a while with no intentions of losing us in the end mean that they don't truly love us because that is just something you can't do to someone you love. To me, this about learning and understanding what love is. I believe we convince ourselves that we are not in love the person or love them as a friend and then one day wake up and say to ourselves, what the hell did I do, what did I lose? Lots of people cheat even though they still love and want to be with their current partner. Maybe they are just being more upfront about it and breaking up with you instead of running around behind your back. Very True - Remember those that don't tell do so to protect YOUR feelings from being hurt. If you find out later, it doesnt help but only hurts you more I am having a hard time trying to explain what I am thinking but I think most of you are smart enough to know what I mean. I understand what you are thinking =) I saw it in a few of your last posts I know we try to psychoanalyse every single thing they do, we do and all that but maybe lots of times its more simple... they wanna fool around! Thoughts? Very True
Ajax Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Maybe its because no matter what they do they don't think they can lose us? Maybe they just want to go have fun with someone else for a while knowing in their own heads that they love us and intend on coming back? Maybe some people do have this mentality. Does that make it okay? In cases like what you're talking about, when someone dumps you but behaves as if they still want you in some capacity, or fear to lose you, says they may come back to you, want to have fun with someone else but intending to come back to you, are afraid of commitment and afraid of doing anything that will cause themselves pain. They want to keep all options open. Other people, and the ones they left. And I for one don't want to be an option, hanging around in case it becomes convenient for someone to come back to me. 1
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