shamone222 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Hi All, basically the breakup i am in at the moment is very similar to the one of my breakups in the past, where eventually they did come back! im not getting myself hopefull over this i just thought id make myself and others feel better by explaining what i did. my current girlfriend has ended it due to stress, arguments and she probably thinks my world revolves around her. she thinks the relationship has gone stale. my ex (a few years back) broke up with me for more or less the same reasons, she did come back and il explain how. after a month of begging her for second chances, not giving her enough space and to the point where i was anoing her i finally excepted the breakup. i sent her one last thoughful apology email, i got my act together, went NC, worked out, made music, went out to gigs etc and had a wonderfull time. she would often check up on me every so often because she felt guilty for 'hurting' me (nothing to do with getting back together). i started dating and met someone new, we hung out at weekends and i was happy and i really showed it. within another month she said she missed me and wanted to meet for a drink. at this point my feelings for her had died down dramatically because i made myself too busy in life, and then that my breakup emotions were healed i didnt have much interest in her anmore!! but i decided id meet her, then that night she cried and said she made a huge mistake and should never have left me. we ended up together another year then i broke it off because my love for her was not the same as when before she broke up with me in the first place. my current girlfriend (now my ex) broke it off with me for the same reasons last week. this time as i learned from experience i handled the break very well, accepted it, respected it, and sent her an apology email 2 days later to wish her the best and to not stress and enjoy life, and sorry it couldnt work out. and i could tell she was more into me than my last ex. she showed it more and iv heard of many people she loves me truely. i know i have now accepted the breakup after less than a week! my last one took me a month!! iv learned to move forward! all i am saying is at the end of the day they may or may not come back, if its meant to be it will be! just go out and enjoy yourself, enjoy life. they only come back after they see how well you are doing without them. and if they dont, it just wasnt meant to be and youl deffinatly have accepted it by then!! as much as it hurts im forcing myself to move forward because its the only way you will recover, and its the only way for them to come back. and in that time, whatever outcome, you will be happy again!! Just wanted to get that off my chest, anbody else in the same situation?
Dragonsden Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I have also learned a lot from my recent break up. I hope the situation does not arise next time but in face of adversity I will have a better emotional control.
Frank13 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 all i am saying is at the end of the day they may or may not come back, if its meant to be it will be! just go out and enjoy yourself, enjoy life. they only come back after they see how well you are doing without them. and if they dont, it just wasnt meant to be and youl deffinatly have accepted it by then!! as much as it hurts im forcing myself to move forward because its the only way you will recover, and its the only way for them to come back. and in that time, whatever outcome, you will be happy again!! Just wanted to get that off my chest, anbody else in the same situation? I think this is so important and the essence of no contact. Move forward. If they come back great, if not you will heal. As Shomone experience, sometimes they come back but by then you have healed or the love for them has changed and you don't want them back. Whatever outcome you will be happy.
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