Engadget Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 5'9 185lbs is kind of meathead; it's too big in my opinion. Model guys here weigh less than that even if they are taller. It's not really though, but then again I am pretty big in terms of bone structure and muscle mass, I'm an inch taller and 10-15lbs heavier than him right now and out of shape for sure. BMI tells me I should weigh 160, I'd be practically anorexic at that weight. My rib cage is huge for example, same with my shoulders.
Author kaylan Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 I'm not sure how true that is though I understand it does have an an affect. I have dark features and I find that blond guys seem to be more attracted to me than brunette guys. You also see often how black and asian men chase after white women who look nothing like their mothers. True. But society has a lot to do with why we chase who we do. There are certain physical characteristics that are widely considered attractive, but societal influence still plays a big part. Nature and nurture are quite powerful. The whole black men and asian women fetishes didnt used to exist in America, and dont exist in many countries. That shows you how much society plays into things.
Kamille Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 This thread is taking a ironic turn. Does any of the "personality matters" people want to have an argument with me about who has the best most universally attractive personality?
mesmerized Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Lmao...I have dense bones...Im pretty thin...Im FAR from a meat head. Thats what I told you before. I tend to weigh a lot more than guys my height. Look at my build....how am I ANYTHING CLOSE to a meathead? http://i43.tinypic.com/1z2gchg.jpg yeah, you can't judge people by weight and height numbers. If I say mine, people will think I'm chubby and undesirable...but then if I post pics of my body, I doubt there are many men who would say no to me lol
Engadget Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 This thread is taking a ironic turn. Does any of the "personality matters" people want to have an argument with me about who has the best most universally attractive personality? That's kind of a stupid argument to have. Preferences are fine. Strict requirements you refuse to deviate from on physical looks are weird, shallow and frankly kind of rude. "Oh she's perfect in every way, but she's 5'6'' not 5'5'' sorry". So many women for example say they refuse to date a guy below 6'0'' tall. That's extremely strange to me.
Author kaylan Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 yeah, you can't judge people by weight and height numbers. If I say mine, people will think I'm chubby and undesirable...but then if I post pics of my body, I doubt there are many men who would say no to me lol pics or gtfo
Kamille Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 That's kind of a stupid argument to have. Preferences are fine. Strict requirements you refuse to deviate from on physical looks are weird, shallow and frankly kind of rude. "Oh she's perfect in every way, but she's 5'6'' not 5'5'' sorry". So many women for example say they refuse to date a guy below 6'0'' tall. That's extremely strange to me. My point exactly. But posters are currently arguing about the desirability of their own and other's physiques. I found it extremely ironic. It is a stupid argument to have. You appeal to some, you don't to others. Live with it.
Engadget Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 My point exactly. But posters are currently arguing about the desirability of their own and other's physiques. I found it extremely ironic. It is a stupid argument to have. You appeal to some, you don't to others. Live with it. Yes, but we're talking about the difference between preference and requirement. It's a valid argument to have.
Kamille Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 (edited) Yes, but we're talking about the difference between preference and requirement. It's a valid argument to have. That's not the argument that caught my attention. I was witnessing Breal and Kaylan critiquing each other's desirability and defending their own. Futile argument as they both clearly have their pick of men or women to choose from, based on what they report here. edit to add: Yes, I definitely require my partner have a good personality . Edited February 25, 2012 by Kamille
Engadget Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 That's not the argument that caught my attention. I was witnessing Breal and Kaylan critiquing each other's desirability and defending their own. Futile argument as they both clearly have their pick of men or women to choose from, based on what they report here. edit to add: Yes, I definitely require my partner have a good personality . Gotcha, I see now.
Author kaylan Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 That's not the argument that caught my attention. I was witnessing Breal and Kaylan critiquing each other's desirability and defending their own. Futile argument as they both clearly have their pick of men or women to choose from, based on what they report here. I wasnt saying I was desirable. I said Im not everyones or even anyones ideal and that I was ok with it. I was also telling Breal that a guy like me and a couple dudes I talk to would consider her attractive but it didnt mean she was our ideal either. She seemed to take this as a slight against her when I was simply saying that myself and my friends would find her to be a bit small for us. Doesnt mean we think shes unattractive. Btw, I never said I have my pick of women. I wish haha. I just know Im not super unattractive is all. =
ScreamingTrees Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Although the media wants us to believe we should want what is "empirically attractive", in reality people are attracted to potential partners who have similar physical and personality characteristics as that of their own oppposite sex parent. Lots out there that supports this idea: Why We Love Who We Love | Reader's Digest Can't ever say I was attracted to someone who had similar physical charactertistics to my mother, of all people.. Of course I want someone who's nice and warm, but who doesn't? ... Eww. PS; Damn, you guys make me feel small.. I'm probably like 40-50 lbs. lighter than kaylan with an inch shaved off of my head.. Oh well, I've always gotten compliments. Can't complain.
Imajerk17 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I'm 5'8" and I don't have any issue against women for wanting taller guys. You like what you like and I have my own preferences. I don't feel physical attraction for thin chicks. Don't ask me why but I just don't. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 "Adamant"? I'm not sure. It's sort of like asking if I'm adamant about the kind of food I find tasty. It's not exactly like it's something one controls with will power. Sometimes when you fall for someone the things you thought you found attractive and unattractive go out the window. Like saying you hate mustard but then realizing you love crab cake. For the longest time I was attracted to skinny Asian guys. I'm getting married to an average build (somewhat muscular) white guy. I couldn't be happier . Who would've guessed? This was probably the most logical post in this whole thread.
verhrzn Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 This thread is taking a ironic turn. Does any of the "personality matters" people want to have an argument with me about who has the best most universally attractive personality? All the people who say "personality matters" aren't currently on this thread because they're out enjoying life with significant others, while we all sit here arguing about the correct bone density and lean muscle mass for a girl to be attractive. Speaking of, I should probably hop out of this thread soon. It's quite triggering to the insecurity to hear all the reasons I will never attract a guy's attention, because fat and un-fit as I am.
Author kaylan Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 I don't take what you said as a slight; your opinion does not have any kind of affect on me. I really could care less. It is true that many guys may not prefer petite females; however I can still get model-type guys and that is good enough for me. You are taking it as a slight because you keep defensively trying to point out how you apparently get hot guys. Um ok...good for you? Want a cookie?
FitChick Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I like men who are taller than I am at 5'8." I suppose you'd describe the man's body I most respond to as a swimmer's body. A full head of hair is important, not bald or shaved, although I recently was attracted to a man who was losing his hair. He was tall, slim and fit and had other qualities I admired. It's more than appearance, it's health over 40. I don't want someone who gets a lifestyle disease -- one that is easily preventable with a healthy lifestyle.
threebyfate Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I'm not overly picky about it. But I do have standards. First I ask her to step onto a scale. Following that I have a plastic form I'll ask her to lie down in. If she fits into the form within certain allowances, I scan her with a spectrometer. Skin tone is important. Then I yank a hair from her head and measure it for length, flexibility and tensile strength, and then put it into a machine that flexes it over and over to measure its durability. Lift her lip and check teeth and count fillings. Then I ask her to speak into a microphone and analyze her voice on an oscilloscope. I count skin blemishes and check fingernails and toenails. Next is the VO2 max test and an underwater fat test. That's the plan anyway. Usually before the plastic form test, they storm out. I'm pretty sure that's out of frustration, knowing they aren't going to pass one of the other upcoming tests. It's a lot of pressure.Bet there's a lot of members who think you're kidding!
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I agree it seems as if only the less fortunate looking people are usually screaming how the world is shallow and how looks dont matter to them because they dont have the resources to acquire one To acquire one of what? A look?
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I don't take what you said as a slight; your opinion does not have any kind of affect on me. I really could care less. It is true that many guys may not prefer petite females; however I can still get model-type guys and that is good enough for me. When you get all of these model type guys - what are you doing with them? Are they stored someplace for safe keeping? 1
spookie Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I don't have aesthetic standards but my lifestyle standards are non-negotiable. Working out is pretty much my #1 hobby and I am looking for someone like-minded. There is nothing less attractive than a guy who can't climb up a flight of stairs without wheezing.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 When you get all of these model type guys - what are you doing with them? Are they stored someplace for safe keeping? How's it working out for her, anyway? Why would she possibly need to come on here? I don't understand. And, I don't understand why a guy at 5'8 would have any significant problems. I see a large number of grown men who're much shorter than I am at this height who all have partners. HOW could you feel short in a world where a MAN can be under 5'5? I've seen plenty of them. They're still masculine, they're not subhuman, they haven't killed themselves, ect.. It's silly. The girls that worry about your forehead reaching an inch or two higher off the ground are no better than the guys who'll pinch a girl's abdomen with a caliper to determine if she's got the perfect body.. If you look at someone and you're liking 'em, why zone in on irrelevant, insignificant bull****? Seriously.
Leigh 87 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Kaylan - fit is great, but do you mean fit as in petite/skinny? only about 10% of women are petite naturally. Most women restrict their food and basically starve themselves to have to look that way. Do you mean you would take a 130 ish lbs women of average height, who was in super good shape and looked slim, but was not close to skinny? I find guys who only go for thin girls over healthy and average girls with pretty faces, have a hrder time finding quality girls, cos they are picking from a VERY small pool of naturally thin girls.
Jane2011 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Just how set in stone are your physical preferences in a bf/gf. Im no model myself, but Im in good shape, so I really only want to seriously date someone whos the same. I most attracted to fit chicks, and If Im dating someone seriously, I want to be super attracted to them. Anyways, Ive been looking at various threads regarding physical looks and such, and some people talk about compromise and such. Also some of my friends have told me Im way too picky. However, is it really that picky to want a fit girl who Id feel more like a man around? This is where I understand why women feel more feminine with a taller man. I feel more like the man when a chick is smaller than me body size wise. However, when Im out and about, or just browse online profiles, theres not many women out there whod fall into the range of what Id physically want in a girlfriend. Thank you American diet. Im attracted to a variety of women, but the problem is that if I dont find myself most attracted to their type, I can see my attraction waning in the future. I dont want that. I always wanna be most attracted to my gal. I had that with my exes. What say you? I pretty much require the guy to be fit. I just won't be attracted to him, otherwise, and I need to be attracted because I want to enjoy physical stuff with the guy. I don't think every guy I've been attracted to would be called "hot" by every other woman, but whatever he was, he was good-looking to me. I don't think I have strict standards as to what a guy must look like, though. I've liked a lot of different "types" in look, but they were all physically fit...
Leigh 87 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Kaylan - COME TO AUS!! Girls here are mostly very fit and active!!!!!!!!!!! It is super nice over here - girls all love to be out doors
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