kaylan Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Just how set in stone are your physical preferences in a bf/gf. Im no model myself, but Im in good shape, so I really only want to seriously date someone whos the same. I most attracted to fit chicks, and If Im dating someone seriously, I want to be super attracted to them. Anyways, Ive been looking at various threads regarding physical looks and such, and some people talk about compromise and such. Also some of my friends have told me Im way too picky. However, is it really that picky to want a fit girl who Id feel more like a man around? This is where I understand why women feel more feminine with a taller man. I feel more like the man when a chick is smaller than me body size wise. However, when Im out and about, or just browse online profiles, theres not many women out there whod fall into the range of what Id physically want in a girlfriend. Thank you American diet. Im attracted to a variety of women, but the problem is that if I dont find myself most attracted to their type, I can see my attraction waning in the future. I dont want that. I always wanna be most attracted to my gal. I had that with my exes. What say you?
ptp Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I am a sucker for a pretty face...other than that not much matters to me. I am flexible. Pretty face + good personality is all I really need.
Jane2011 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Yeah, I'm adamant that he be in shape. I am, so he needs to be, too. I won't date a fat guy or even a chunky one. He doesn't have to be handsome to everyone else, but he has to be handsome/cute to me. (I've been told I like pretty boys before; I think I kinda do, but that doesn't mean they always look like models; they're just on the good-looking side...) I don't demand that he be 6 feet tall, but I can't deny I like the 5'9" to 5'11" variety more so than the 5'6" to 5'8" variety (all other things being equal).
ThaWholigan Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I'm not particularly fit at the moment, so I'm not really too fussy about that, as long as they are not obese, I don't mind if they are chubby. Like ptp though, I have always liked pretty girls. If they have pretty eyes, I'm sold.
Kamille Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I don't have an explicit criteria. I'm attracted to a guy or I'm not. If past crushes are any indications, I like my men in all shapes and sizes, although fit and tall seems to be a theme. It should be noted that my biggest crush ever was on a guy shorter than me, who wasn't really good looking by traditional standards. I just really liked his shy-yet-sweet attitude. So the answer is no, I'm not adamant about physical standards.
Tybalt Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I'd probably be more attracted (initially, anyway) to someone in shape. I work out and maintain myself and would find someone of a similar philosophy to be more compatible with me, too. I think of it this way: If I extrapolate to a future time, when I'm sharing a life with this person, will it be me (or him) making two meals, one with vegetables for me and meat and potatoes for him? Will I be making time for the gym while he either doesn't participate with me (or worse, resents the time I make to go)? Will I be watching someone I love slowly kill himself with health habits I shun? It's more than base physical attraction for me. That being said, I'm open to being surprised in life. Sometimes you meet someone who seems a great match on paper in many ways, and they are terrible for you in reality (my last bf ). Or, someone might seem less than ideal in certain aspects, but absolutely knocks your socks off in the ways that count.
veggirl Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I don't have super strict criteria. If I am attracted to the guy, we're good to go. I'm not attracted to overweight guys. I have been attracted to guys of all heights (I am 5'8 myself). I don't need a guy to make me feel feminine in regards to that. I am slim and am attracted to bodies that are not overweight and not overly muscley. I am not attracted to like, the football player build for example. I like a baseball player body, kinda lanky but fit Anyway, I'm NOT super strict on this, my first serious BF was exactly my height but was chubby. I liked him regardless. He wasn't fat, but he was chubby...eh I don't know if I'd go for that now. I prefer brown hair and brown eyes. My current BF is blonde/blue eyed and I'm very attracted to him. First blonde guy I've really dug! I think there's a fine line between having a preference and being too picky.
jobaba Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Just how set in stone are your physical preferences in a bf/gf. Im no model myself, but Im in good shape, so I really only want to seriously date someone whos the same. I most attracted to fit chicks, and If Im dating someone seriously, I want to be super attracted to them. Anyways, Ive been looking at various threads regarding physical looks and such, and some people talk about compromise and such. Also some of my friends have told me Im way too picky. However, is it really that picky to want a fit girl who Id feel more like a man around? This is where I understand why women feel more feminine with a taller man. I feel more like the man when a chick is smaller than me body size wise. However, when Im out and about, or just browse online profiles, theres not many women out there whod fall into the range of what Id physically want in a girlfriend. Thank you American diet. Im attracted to a variety of women, but the problem is that if I dont find myself most attracted to their type, I can see my attraction waning in the future. I dont want that. I always wanna be most attracted to my gal. I had that with my exes. What say you? I don't really have physical standards. I don't really think about what is not attractive. I just think about what is. That said, the few women I've managed to date have been called hot by at least some men. On the subject of pickiness and physical standards, I think it's fine. I don't have a problem with women rejecting me because I'm too short, my race, not good looking enough or whatever ... before they know me. If I get to know them and like them for their personality and then reject me because I'm an inch shorter than them, then that hurts. I mean, it's my problem, but whatever...
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I am now. In my last couple of relationships I wasn't and it ended up being a problem. I don't have a specific "type" but the man needs to be fit (because I am) and be attractive to me.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I'm not picky at all. I've screwed myself over for being picky in the past. Not doing that again.
Imageiko Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Fitness and a general healthy lifestyle is one of the few areas where I'm not flexible and don't think you should be either. Unfortunately given your country that may limit your choices. Keep in mind the obese rate goes down the larger the city. Not sure where u live.
aj22one Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Just how set in stone are your physical preferences in a bf/gf. That depends on what you mean by "physical preferences". Height, weight, fitness level those sorta things I'm pretty flexible on. I've had to come to terms though with the fact that I have a particular "racial fetish". I've tried to ignore it in the past and it never worked. Now I've come to embrace it. So on that, yeah I'm pretty set in stone.
reallyhotguy Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I've only ever dated really beautiful looking women. That's how I see it anyway. It's been a good life
Jane2011 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I am not attracted to like, the football player build for example. I like a baseball player body, kinda lanky but fit Agree about the baseball player body being ideal. Most guys I like are that type. But I actually have liked a few buff guys, too; they just weren't "overboard" buff...
reallyhotguy Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Im attracted to a variety of women, but the problem is that if I dont find myself most attracted to their type, I can see my attraction waning in the future. I dont want that. I always wanna be most attracted to my gal. I had that with my exes. What say you? I wouldn't worry about that. As long as there's a spark, your feelings will grow to where you want them to be, even if her nipple color isn't what you're used to.
Author kaylan Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 ^Nipple color? lol. I dont really have a race preference if thats what you mean. I was strictly speaking about body shape and fitness. I get really crazy for fit girls. Its not even just the body tho. Its also the attitude that they wanna look good for me. Plus who doesnt like strolling around with their girl, making people jealous? =P
Star Gazer Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I don't have an explicit criteria. I'm attracted to a guy or I'm not. If past crushes are any indications, I like my men in all shapes and sizes, although fit and tall seems to be a theme. Same here.
silvermercy Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I think I'm the worst from all of you! So much that only fictional characters fit my criteria best. (I've mentioned it before: Altair from Assassin's Creed, Nero from DMC... etc). I think I have a problem. lol Ok... ok I'm not that bad... I can settle for a Brad Pitt lookalike...
joystickd Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I only have 3 requirements 1. nice face 2. not fat 3. not black
Star Gazer Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 3. not black I wonder why it's okay for men to have race preferences, but not okay for women to have height preferences.
aj22one Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I wonder why it's okay for men to have race preferences, but not okay for women to have height preferences. It's ok to have height preferences. I just get annoyed when people don't understand that the more picky you are the more dating frustration you're likely to have. Tall men are rarer so you'll have more competition if that's what you're looking for. It's the way it works. I experience this first hand all the time when I'm single.
carhill Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Very strict standards. Breathing is required.
joystickd Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I wonder why it's okay for men to have race preferences, but not okay for women to have height preferences. I don't care what preference you have. I'm black but I prefer to not date black women. I had a lot of horrible experiences I just want to forget
Star Gazer Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I just get annoyed when people don't understand that the more picky you are the more dating frustration you're likely to have. Tall men are rarer so you'll have more competition if that's what you're looking for. It's the way it works. You know, I just really haven't found that to be true. It's not like I'm looking around thinking, "Where are all the tall men?" or even "All the good guys are short!" or having difficulty finding a great, tall guy to date. You know, when it comes to physical attraction, "preferences" really isn't a good word to use. I can't help that I'm just not physically attracted to short men. It's not that I prefer a man to be tall, it's that I truly am not personally physically attracted to short men. It's not a preference, like "I prefer if he lives closer, or I prefer if he pays, or I prefer if he is active, or I prefer that he enjoys to travel." You're either attracted, or you're not. I really don't think physical attraction can be controlled. 1
reallyhotguy Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 You're either attracted, or you're not. I really don't think physical attraction can be controlled. But to some extent we know that it can, as one of the defining characteristics of attractiveness is familiarity. Also, you don't have to look too far on this forum for examples of people unexpectedly falling for one another.
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