shamone222 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Hi, my girlfiend who i met through mutual friends broke up with me because she under alot of stress in life, also told me that we fight too much (only 3 times i recall in an 8 month relationship). i was devistated but handled the breakup well and respected her decision. it was a fine relationship, we loved eachother since we met and say it to eachother everday. but she also feels like she rushed into this relationship too quickly, she's had a few bad relationships, one of them for 7 years, and told me that we have fought more times than all her relationships put together which is not true! i think she's confused and using that as an excuss. i was so good to her she even thanked me for it when she broke it off and just explained that its just not working for her. it happened so suddenly and i didnt see it coming, there were no signs!! anyway 2 days into no contact i sent her an apology email, i owned up for my faults and the breakup and wished her the best in a non-guilty way, it wasnt at all desperate it was very mature. BUT IM RIGHT BACK TO SQUARE ONE AGAIN!!! i hate feeling like this, im going stricted no contact from now on. i feel as if i should never have sent that email! i really wish i can rewind time to the point i was convincing myself not to send it!! im finding myself waiting for a reply which is pathetic im checking my mail every 15mins!! i wonder if she has seen it and just plain ignored it. did i do the right thing before i try move on?? but i do want her back and i know its going to take alot of time if she does decide...
Exit Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 What's done is done. Don't worry about the fact that you sent the email, can't change it now. She may read it, she may not. I sent my ex an email after a month of nc and didn't hear anything for a week then all of a sudden I got a response. I don't think its terrible that you wanted to apologize and say some things, but you shouldn't have hoped for a response. Say what you needed to say for your own benefit and that's it. Don't torture yourself by checking your email all the time. After my ex and I started exchanging a few emails I actually set up my email options so that anything from her would automatically go to a different folder, that way if I wanted to sign on and check my other email I didn't always have to be concerned whether I was going to see a response from her or not. All you can do now is move on. Maybe she'll eventually reply. Maybe not.
Author shamone222 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 i know she will reply, but i really dont want her to now cus it will put me off moving on. im afraid its going to be out of pity or guilt. but you're right whats done is done!! well said my friend..
Frank13 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 At least it was only 2 days of NC. Some people here have gone months or a year, broken contact, and regretted it. Then they saw all the NC time as a waste. Just commit to NC. Go to the "coping" forum and if you get the urge to break NC, post you message on the thread "Post here instead of contacting your ex". That way you are saying what you want to sat without sending it to her and breaking NC.
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