ano Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 so im in college and see this girl i have a mad crush on, but i see her like maybe once every 2 weeks or even less than that at time for a club im in you see were only acquaintances but i want more and ive had a total of like 3-4 two min. conversations with her. these were really short convos but dang she was friendly to me & and she so pretty to me! next time i see her i plan on getting her # & asking her to watch a movie or sumthin with me, what is the proper etiquette in doing this in regards to my situation? should i wait till shes like all alone w/o anyone else around to do it so i dont make her feel funny? also i just want to erase her out of my mind when i dont see her ugh and dont want to think so much about her when im not seeing her ya know? just want to hear sum of the things ppl do to live their life in the mean time (when i dont see her or know i wont be seeing her), i dont want to obsess over this but i guess i already am.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Don't over-think it, just relax and be yourself and casually ask her If she'd like to grab coffee or get something to eat sometime. You don't have to be all uptight and make it complicated, just take a deep breathe and when you see her give her a smile, approach her confidently and ask her how she is and then ask her. Don't make a big deal out of it, don't hype it up or plan it out, just go with confidence my young padawan, she's just a normal human being that farts and pees like rest of us. Make it a short interaction, get her number, and then move along with the rest of your day...and then when you go home get on your knees and go "yeeeees!" If she says no, or makes an excuse, just back off and just tell her to take care and have a good one.
Author ano Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 yea so this isnt the first time this has happened to me ugh. its just if she says no to me ill feel like garbage for the next month+. ugh i dont talk to females really and whenever i ask a girl out that i like they have ALWAYS say no & feel like garbage for a long time. hehe im tryin not to be so damn shy around girls really i am tryin oh well ive been thru it before, ill just give a try, and ill try to be calm. im prolly seein her this weekend & ask her
Author ano Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 whenever i see her i have every intention of asking her out, getting her numb etc but i freakin chikin out every time ugh. and it sucks cuz like i know the next time i see her will be like NEVER. and then i have to wait a long time to try again only to hope that ill finally man up and actually ask for her numb, but its always the same thing i dont ask for her numb or ask her to hang out with me. again I dont see this girl regularly. i wasnt even expectin to see her i just ran into her on campus once and we chatted very briefly and never managed to ask her for her numb or anything ugh.
OrangeSnack Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Anon haha I was just like you a few years ago. I would fall for a girl and we would have some great convos. I would succeed at getting dates but after a rejection it would totally bum me out for months. As to girls that I wished I would have asked out I get bummed out if I didn't do anything. The thing is anon you and I can both agree that we have somewhat of a depression issue. I don't mean it in a bad way but it can certainly effect our emotions and confidence. But don't worry these type of issues will take overtime to change. You're gonna have tone determined anode you must not be afraid to fail. Like the previous poster just don't overthink it. Be yourself. Im a firm believer that when it comes to dating we men should initiate all the basic steps. Anyway what im trying to say is don't be afraid and I know deep down you're not a shy person you just keep second guessing yourself. Be confident and simply ask her out if she says no well move on and you'll have that monkey off your shoulder. Good luck
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