garycoleman Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I know people said avoid movie dates because it won't give you a chance to talk. But since we both are shy, I figure going to the movies for the 1st date won't put that much pressure on us to keep the conversation going. When we go to dinner after the movie, we can talk about parts of the movie incase there are awkard moments of silence.
Feelin Frisky Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 At least go to dinner first and get to know each other a bit. If you take a date to a movie you don't put an empty seat between you and her--you sit next to each other. That can be a little awkward if you haven't broken the ice with some conversation and seeing each others manner for a while before hand IMO. A movie is an OK date for the first time if you're shy, but actually facing your shyness head on by doing something more communicative is better. You'll find the butterflies going away faster.
goldengirl11 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I know people said avoid movie dates because it won't give you a chance to talk. But since we both are shy, I figure going to the movies for the 1st date won't put that much pressure on us to keep the conversation going. When we go to dinner after the movie, we can talk about parts of the movie incase there are awkard moments of silence. I think it sounds an excellent idea. Good luck!
Author garycoleman Posted February 25, 2012 Author Posted February 25, 2012 I would like to take her ice skating but the last girl I took ice skating was a disaster, which was a month ago.
Imageiko Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 If your that worried about conversation I guess it's ok. I thought the comedy club idea was a good one as well.
reallyhotguy Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 The thing about movies is that they're also really long. If you're shy and nervous, it's going to be an eternity to stew in thoughts about the girl next to you that you want to impress and yet barely know, and now you've got movie etiquette to worry about. IMO, first dates especially shouldn't have a lot of commitment up front and should give you a lot of room for outs. For that reason, I only usually plan the first thing, something that will require a ~30 minute commitment, and I extend the date from there as appropriate. Do you guys like art? Why not go to a gallery? It's quiet in there, so you can't talk too much, and you can each go at your own paces around the room and then meet up at the ends of the exhibits to talk/flirt etc. Plus, art can be a lot of fun, I mean people make some ridiculous looking ****.
SJC2008 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 I like to do at least a small activity before dinner on a date. A movie is the absolute worst thing to do IMO. Two strangers sittig nex to each other, especially when it's quiet before the comming a's is a recipie for crickets. Do something like mini golf, pool or go to an adult fun plex like dave n busters. Activities help break the ice. I'm 30 and I do it and girls seem to like it. Good luck!
FitChick Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 Activities you can do together like bowling, pool, bike riding, shooting range or even one of those ceramic places where you can make a vase and paint it. Good reminder of the date, too.
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