Mme. Chaucer Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 These last two girlfriends, who I know I loved with every fiber of my body, by forcing myself to walk away and not look back, thinking about them sleeping with another guy...it just doesn't bother me very much. Then you didn't "love them with every fibre" of your being. I am getting so sick of reading about how people's crappy behavior justifies more crappy behavior. Why don't you be the kind of person that you would like to be, and that you would like others to be towards you? Whatever. At least you are okay being alone. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 He might. Whatever the reasons, it sounds like weak and cowardly behavior to me.
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 Soooo...I see Guy A and things are good. I don't ask if he's interested or anything because he tells me about his week and it was pretty stressful. We talk, cuddle, watch a movie and I spent the night (a first and no sex). Everything seemed good, but again...today nothing. I guess I just don't get it and have to just ask..."hey buddy if you are freak'n interested show me a damn sign". Haha. I guess I'm just not used to having a nice time with someone and then not hearing from them for a day then coming back especially when before just a mere week ago we would go out and he would text immediately saying what a great time he had. Yes I know he may not be the right person for me and sure I should just ask. All easier said then done. Just venting, working on it, and updating
here4her Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Its frustrating! I'm going through the same thing. I've mentioned it a couple times, every couple weeks I just get so frustrated and let it out. Nothing changes its just getting more and more distant, and yesterday she tells me its cause I won't get over the fact she goes mia for 3-4 days, She didn't respond to any texts this whole weekend, Finally last night I get a response. When I ask her what happened all weekend she said she didn't think it was a big deal we didnt talk, and she needed a break cause I stressed her out. I basically have to find out how her days are or what shes up to during the weekends from her facebook page. Which tells me this weekend when she was MIA she went to atlantic city with her best friend (guy) then came home the next day, and had a party at her house with her guy best friend, another girl friend she has, and her brother. She invited me over last night, I know it would be the same thing it always is, talking cuddling sleeping (no sex) she'd comfort me and make me feel like I'm wrong for being upset. She'd probably tell me she missed me, and she loves me. Then she'd go MIA next week when shes with her "guy best friend". I didn't go. The thing I keep telling myself and you should start thinking is, he obviously isn't in the same boat as you. If you only put in as much effort as he is, your less likely to be hurt in the end.
Nukulus Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 Soooo...I see Guy A and things are good. I don't ask if he's interested or anything because he tells me about his week and it was pretty stressful. We talk, cuddle, watch a movie and I spent the night (a first and no sex). Everything seemed good, but again...today nothing. I guess I just don't get it and have to just ask..."hey buddy if you are freak'n interested show me a damn sign". Haha. I guess I'm just not used to having a nice time with someone and then not hearing from them for a day then coming back especially when before just a mere week ago we would go out and he would text immediately saying what a great time he had. Yes I know he may not be the right person for me and sure I should just ask. All easier said then done. Just venting, working on it, and updating I'll preface this saying I don't know your guy so I don't know what he's thinking, BUT... As a 25 year old guy thats been in similar situations it seems like this area ~1 month of dating say 3-7 dates is very critical. Personally I never want to come off as overly needy, and/or be texting her constantly giving her the opinion my world revolves around her. It has seemed to me at these infancy stages of the relationship there are so many different things that can set a girl off and you'll never hear from them again. For instance, I bought flowers for a girl on a 4th date (purple tulips, she liked purple) just as a nice gesture. Date only wen't "okay" and I never heard from her again... So I guess what I am saying is don't read too much into it. Don't be afraid to contact him and see what he's doing. In the end it will work out or it won't... In the mean time don't sweat the small stuff- It will just drive you crazy (speaking from experience). Best of luck! 1
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 Well said Nukulus! Thank you for saying that. Just trying to not drive my self crazy with my own thoughts I contacted him yesterday and have just been short and sweet. If he wants to continue the convo it's up to him, but I'm trying not to do my usual put the breaks on and disappear since he's being "differently". Guess I thought as men got older (well men and women) that things would be a little easier. I was wrong. Dating when I was in my early and mid 20's was breezy! Haha THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR YOUR AWESOME ADVICE AND GUIDANCE!
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