smoke_n_mirrors Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Hello! I've been having trouble with a friend and I would really appreciate some advice. I have a friend who I met through a long term best friend. Since the long term best friend moved away, we 've been hanging out quite a bit. He's pleasant and fun but he's a huge drama queen and it's really been a lot for me to deal with. I feel like he only hangs out with me to drink and talk about himself and all his problems. A week ago I went out with my family for my brother's birthday and he made a big deal about no one being able to go out drinking with him and he said he had no real friends and deleted them all off his phone. I thought he was seriously distraught and promised to go out the next night. Well, the next night we went out and I brought some friends of mine and I offered to be DD. He made a huge fuss that I wasn't drinking and had me driving from city to city bar hopping to meet up with his friends (which I thought he deleted??) And was kinda rude towards me when I and my friends wanted to go home. We ended the night sourly. Now he's been texting me everyday to go out and drink. I'm a little peeved at him and honestly am really busy and watching my $. Plus I really don't like drinking all the time or being his constant therapist. The only time he asks how I am is right before he asks me to go out. I'm just really worn out. Plus I think he has a drinking problem because all we ever do is drink. When i tell him I don't want to drink he always makes a big deal out of it. How do I approach this subject? How do I talk to him without blowing up? He can be a huge diva and he skypes with our mutual friend almost everyday. I'm sure he's said something as I feel my relationship with the other friend is becomming strained. Thank you :-)
riverman Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 Just be firm but polite,explain why u can't do something. Say listen man I told you my feelings on this i'm not gonna waste my time. People like this feed off drama and if they don't listen to reason just stop talking to them until they act reasonable. We have a good time hanging but you gotta respect my option. I get drunk to much myself,once I do I can go crazy,so I'm trying to limit myself and not go out drinking too much. I have some friends who it seems any free night they have the thought process is lets get wasted. I love these guys but I got avoid them to a certain point. I would either drop this dude completely or when he being unreasonable avoid his calls or txts.
The_Joker Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Ship him over, I'd love to be his friend Just cause my life is so boring, I need some drama in my life, or at least hear some ahahaha, I might regret saying that later, but seriously... it is kind of entertaining.... i love listening to other people's drama! Ahem... ok, when he starts throwing a hissy fit when you tell him you don't like to drink that much, tell him he needs to respect that decision. It sounds like he's the type of person that likes stirring up drama, and thrives on it :S Have you also talked to your mutual friend about this? Is this the long term best friend you were mentioning, and exactly how close is she/he to him? Maybe have a chat with your mutual friend about this, I would hate to see a best friend relationship being broken by something that should not involve the best friend at all.
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