saw my ex for the first time in a long time

[xztjohn]

havent seen my ex in 2 months, i was walking in the library down the hall and i saw her and we were walking towards another but in opposite directions. she pulled out her phone and i looked a diffdirection but then we looked at one another and just smiled. didnt feel as bad as it was before. before whn i saw her it felt like somone just punched me in my chest but this one felt like someone tapped me. she just texted me right now saying "thanks for smiling at me :)" that made my eye all watery. do u guys know what stage of recovery im on right now? should i text back? wat should i say?

Edited February 24, 2012 by xztjohn

[InJest]

If you want her back, don't return the text.

[shayla]

If you think you will end up in a dialogue with her, then do not respond. These kinds of interactions can go south fast.

 

If you think you can just say YW have a great weekend and let it drop, then do that.

 

Good luck

[jus d'orange]

It's tough, because you're in a catch-22 situation... you know this can become a game, and by trying to not play at all, you're still, in effect, playing the game.

 

I think keep it to a single response, if you feel like, and keep it simple and upbeat. Maybe even an "of course!" or something along those lines.

[xztjohn]

i think ill just not respond. or say u 2. a part of me wants her to want me back.

[jus d'orange]

I guess the smile you gave her is all you really needed to "say" anyway. Probably best not to respond. Remember that you need to keep moving on as you're doing and not spend too much effort on hoping she will come back.

[xztjohn]

alright i like that. she looked really different than i remember z in a bad way that is. she seemed like she aged alot, prob due to stress or something. i did the right thing by smiling right? i dont really know what to do in those situations.

Edited February 24, 2012 by xztjohn

[downriver]

It's a lot better than not acknowledging each other at all. With that smile, you most likely gave her the indication that you're doing alright without her. That in itself could make her realize your value to her and possibly want you back. It would be best to stay no contact. But when she calls you and wants to talk to you, have a conversation but keep it light. Let her do the initiating.

[xztjohn]

yeah im a bit bitter about the break up. she pretty much left me for some guy who i thot was my friend. i broke up with her and wanted her back he took advantage of the situation convinced her to break up with me and got with her, did all these sweet things for her. alot of drama came from it and alot of pain i felt. he was posting it on his fb wall rubbing it in soon after the break up. i kinda wish karma runs its course, or is it better to let go of the bitterness and forgive and forget?

[immitable]

yeah im a bit bitter about the break up. she pretty much left me for some guy who i thot was my friend. i broke up with her and wanted her back he took advantage of the situation convinced her to break up with me and got with her, did all these sweet things for her. alot of drama came from it and alot of pain i felt. he was posting it on his fb wall rubbing it in soon after the break up. i kinda wish karma runs its course, or is it better to let go of the bitterness and forgive and forget?

 

 

Why did you break up with her?

One thing you should know that the breakup happened for a reason in the first place. Once you break up you break trust which is very hard to rebuild but it all depends on situation and the relationship you had with her.

[xztjohn]

i broke up with her cause i was annoyed at something. we had our fair share of fights it was more in the moment thing. i felt it was gonna happen sooner or later, could see that we were growing distant from obe another. i think i wanted a break if anything. i dot regret anythig tho, honestly if i spent my whole college career and just be the same person making the same mistakes that would be a tragedy. i really learned alot from the break up so i dont regret at all

[xztjohn]

if my ex randomly calls me should i pick up? how would do i handle the convo btw? every once in awhile i get an unknown call i think its her cause i never get unknown calls.