MissBee Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Someone posted this on Facebook and I have no clue if it is true or made up...but it was a very poignant and touching story with so much truth to it! Married or not you should read this... “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband…. The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Lostinlife4now Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Miss Bee!! What a lovely story! It made me cry!!! Thank you!
Eve Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I quite liked it.. but I am a bit sad.. I knew she had something wrong with her. Take care. Eve x
PhoenixRise Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 MissBee This was a great story. Thank you for posting it. 1
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 ... How do you not know your wife has cancer! 1
SBC Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 ah, if life were only so simply and easy as this.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 (edited) to say how cliched it was???? Again if you ignore the marriage and the one you love, I get it..... And I can only expect it is made up.... Edited February 26, 2012 by Toodamnpragmatic 1
PhoenixRise Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 ... How do you not know your wife has cancer! I figure the story is fictional. But my aunt hid from her entire family, including her husband that she had terminal cancer. And as far as I know there was no infidelity in her marriage. We figure she just wanted her last days to NOT be about her dying.
Afishwithabike Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I've read that before. I think most of us know it's fiction. snopes.com: Carried Wife While I think reconciliation is possible and people can change, I don't find overly sappy stories like that very moving.
KathyM Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 I was hoping for a happy ending, but it ended up bittersweet. It's still a good example of how people can rekindle their feelings for each other, even when their relationship seems all but dead. This may be a fictional story, but it does demonstrate that marriages can fail when people stop making the effort to touch and connect with their spouse, but that marriages can be restored when people start making those efforts. I know an example of this in real life. A husband and wife had stopped putting forth the effort and stopped being physical with each other, and their marriage grew apart. They separated for seven months, after which the wife decided to give it one last try. She moved back to the family home and made the effort to give her husband hugs every day. His heart was hardened against her previously, but little by little, over a period of a month or so, his feelings for her were rekindled, and they are now very happily married to each other. Physical touching (and I don't mean just sex) generates an emotional connection, and needs to be maintained to keep a marriage healthy. 3
whichwayisup Posted February 26, 2012 Posted February 26, 2012 ... How do you not know your wife has cancer! She probably knew he was cheating for a while.. Anyway, I doubt the story is true but it sends a strong message. I will point out not telling your own child the truth about being sick isn't right. I understand protecting them and all but not allowing the kid to know or have a chance to say goodbye is sad.
Untouchable_Fire Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I figure the story is fictional. But my aunt hid from her entire family, including her husband that she had terminal cancer. And as far as I know there was no infidelity in her marriage. We figure she just wanted her last days to NOT be about her dying. The story is clearly fictional... and it IS moving. It was designed to tug the heart strings. She probably knew he was cheating for a while.. Anyway, I doubt the story is true but it sends a strong message. I will point out not telling your own child the truth about being sick isn't right. I understand protecting them and all but not allowing the kid to know or have a chance to say goodbye is sad. The problem I see with this story is that it fails to be realistic. First... most guys who are cheating do not plan to leave their family. Additionally lack of intimacy is almost never the reason a guy cheats. This story is written as though it's a lesbian couple. Finally, a guy who is cheating and planning to move on... will not give a piss if his wife is dieing of cancer. In fact he will probably jump for joy as it will make everything easier for him. Newt Gengrich is a perfect example as he served divorce papers to his wife while she was dieing of cancer. The one thing I do agree with in this story is the portrayal of OW's. From my experience they do tend to be asshats. Just as MM tend to be slimebuckets.
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