bluewolf17 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Venting. I'm on day 8 NC. The last message he sent me was saying that he would see me soon and we talked about getting a drink last Friday. Noooope. Never heard a thing. I decided the next day to go NC and try and let my yo yo relationship with my ex of over 6 years go. It's so much easier because he is not calling/texting me! Just a lesson to you guys out there..go NC. I broke up with this guy 6 years ago after a 3.5 relationship. Although I met someone else later and have been with him since, I never cut contact with this ex. He chased me for years and I felt guilty and interested..bad on me! A month ago he called and said he ended his 8 month relationship with his girlfriend, and started telling me how he has missed me/I'm the only one. I get interested again, only to have him tell me that he still loves her/wants to try with her/only sees me as a friend! If I had just gone NC 6 years ago, I wouldn't care at all, but now he's all I think about. Take note! Cut NC and ruuuuun!
Philosoraptor Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Yes NC is an important tool for most people's path to healing. But being with someone while you are constantly thinking of another is wrong to this new person. You know this though.. and many have stressed it. You've also contemplated leaving this new person as well but seem to need him as a security blanket.
Author bluewolf17 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 Yes NC is an important tool for most people's path to healing. But being with someone while you are constantly thinking of another is wrong to this new person. You know this though.. and many have stressed it. You've also contemplated leaving this new person as well but seem to need him as a security blanket. You are right, I do know that. That's why I'm fixing it! NC for the ex, trying to work on the current relationship. But doesn't make it any less hard. I disagree on the security blanket statement.
stillafool Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Venting. It's so much easier because he is not calling/texting me! You are so right. That's why I have always changed all contact info when in a break up. A month ago he called and said he ended his 8 month relationship with his girlfriend, and started telling me how he has missed me/I'm the only one. I get interested again, only to have him tell me that he still loves her/wants to try with her/only sees me as a friend! If you had changed your contact info this would have never happened.
Author bluewolf17 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 Problem was..I wanted the window open..that was my mistake.
Author bluewolf17 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 CRAP! OF COURSE! He just called me at work and totally caught me off guard..it was a awkward. He told me that he is just really confused over everything. Torn between me and another girl (his ex). I mean, to say I was uncomfortble is being light. He said he was really sorry he hasn't called, and he wanted me to know that he has been thinking about me a lot and he is sorry that he fell off the face of the earth. He basically said he would be doing nothing all weekend, and he would be waiting by the phone if I wanted to do something. But it's weird. Now I am just kind...blah about it. Like for whatever reason, he and his ex aren't working out so now I'm just his second choice..it makes me feel..icky. I told him I would talk to him later but made no plans. I hope I did the right thing.
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