drifter777 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Thank you everyone. She has been an open book about it. Given me all her passwords and phone stuff. She even ordered me a basket of treats to work and brought up some good times we have had. She doesn't talk to the guy anymore. But she just somehow finds a way to hurt me either by silence or with her words. It's so confusing and painful. Everything you have posted is indicitive of the confusion and shock you are in as you try to sort out your feelings. You & your wife need to get into marriage counseling in order to sort out what the hell is going on. In addition to marriage counseling you should consider individual counseling. If you get to a point where you believe you could hurt her or OM or yourself you need to find a crisis management clinic and get yourself there as soon as possible. This initial pain, confusion and rage will subside as you work on your own recovery. Right now you need to be selfish and stop thinking about why she did and is doing these confusing things. Focus more on yourself and your own feelings until you are ready to move to the next phase of your life.
Bryanp Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Have you both now been tested for STD's? Have you exposed this to the OM's wife, girlfriend or significant other? If the roles were reversed do you think your wife would have been so forgiving and accepting as you have been? No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change. If you don't respect yourself then who will?
bosunmate Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Exactly. OP you have a right to "stew in anger" for the time being. You wouldn't be human if you didn't. I don't think your responses are very helpful, maybe a more positive approach would help...
bosunmate Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) Am I supposed to care? I'm not here for you. The fact remains is that he has a right to his emotions. Try helping instead of kicking someone when they are down..You are suppose to care, its easy to see you have been burned, that's why your so bitter and have nothing positive to say. Edited February 25, 2012 by bosunmate
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