nrekic.rose Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Hi all, I moved from America to Australia over two years ago to be with my now husband. There wasn't originally any talk of him moving to America, as he had his animation career here and his grandmother had bought him a block of land that we could build a house on in Australia. Life seemed more "set up" for us here. Over the first six months of living here, I really began to feel what I had done. After a 3 year LDR, I was finally with my love, but I missed my family so much. Once I reached my two year mark here and really established a career, it began to get better, but my heart still aches for my family every day. His family is European, and while they are nice to me (they weren't at first - we lived with them for awhile and they treated me like crap) I cannot get along with them. Culturally, our views just don't match up and I know I will never have a close relationship with them. Now the animation industry in our area has crumbled, but there are lots of opportunities back in the u.s., my home country. My parents are quite young, and I have a teenage brother that my husband loves and gets along with. My extended family also have welcomed my husband with open arms. Now, I want to move back, but my husband refuses. He makes excuses like "the food is too unhealthy in the u.s." (agreed, but family is more important), "we built our first home together here and that can never be replaced", etc. All valid, but none more important than being with my family. Also, his family has money and can afford to visit us at least once a year if we move, and we could afford to visit them once a year. So thats once every six months we could see them. And his brother is in his 20's, so he could also afford to fly to see us, where as my little brother cannot and is too young. Is it fair that I want to move back? I feel like we could have a wonderful life in the u.s., and my husband would get the support and family that I haven't had here. I am also aware, however, that I may be being selfish and putting myself over him. Thoughts?
FitChick Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 When you get married, your husband is your family. Your top priority should be the marriage. In this case, I'd approach it from a career and financial standpoint because if he is unemployed or about to be, that will have more of an impact on you both than missing your family. As for unhealthy food, tell him to shop at Whole Foods if he is worried.
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