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So I just got home a few hours ago from a second date :)

we went to the movie theatre and watched "the woman in black" ^^

he didnt put his arm around me or anything but he did place his hand on my thigh (i was sitting cross legged)

and as we were leaving the movie theatre we held hands :) <3

after that he drove me home and we just sat in his car and talked

however....we started to talk about exes and when his 17 he fell in love with his ex-gf (they broke up almost 2 years ago) and hes 26 now, and they were in an on and off relationship... (very dysfunctional he said)

he reallyy loved her and is totally torn from it (hes gotten over her tho)

it ended with him saying "i like you but i just dont think i can invest all my time and energy into one girl right now..i want to focus on mountain biking and work.."

 

My question to you guys is... should i wait for him??

btw hes a reallyy dorky and sweet guy <3

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and also if anyone has any experiences similar to this please share! :)

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"i like you but i just dont think i can invest all my time and energy into one girl right now..i want to focus on mountain biking and work.."

 

Does this mean he wants to multi date?

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well we both still go on pof (where we originally met) but i mainly go on just to see if he went online and yes he still does

 

Well being in a relationship is like having a full time job (im quoting one of my guy friends lol), im just assuming this is what he meant when he said that..?

cuz he gave all his heart to his ex...

i dont knoww im just hurt and confused right now :(

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well we both still go on pof (where we originally met) but i mainly go on just to see if he went online and yes he still does

 

Well being in a relationship is like having a full time job (im quoting one of my guy friends lol), im just assuming this is what he meant when he said that..?

cuz he gave all his heart to his ex...

i dont knoww im just hurt and confused right now :(

 

If you quoted him word for word correctly then I think he meant that he wants to date around sorry. In which case no, you shouldn't wait for him. No-one should make you feel like you have to compete for their attention - that's what I believe anyway.

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haha i didnt quote him exactly :( i stopped listening after he said "but i dont want a relationship" lool but i got the gist of what he was saying ><

and yeah i totally agree with you :) thank you for ur response!

im not gonna try hard to get his attention or anything, the balls in his court

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My question to you guys is... should i wait for him??

btw hes a reallyy dorky and sweet guy <3

Never wait for a person you just met, rarely is it worth it.

 

And as for what he said, he isn't over his ex', which means you should run as fast as you can, really, don't get into this mess! Don't go on another date with him!!

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I agree, don't wait. He was with his ex 7 years and she was probably his first love so those two things alone will make it extremely hard to get over someone. He knows he isn't over her and is being honest with you as to not waste your time. Too bad you didn't meet him 5 years from now.

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Wait for someone after 2 dates? He clearly wants to multi-date. He was in a relationship with the same girl for 7 years and is probably enjoying his new-found freedom.

 

Also, I doubt he wants you to "wait." Typically when a guy says something like he did it means he's not all that into you.

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