ziggue Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I went through a huge break up, December 2010. I am finally over it now but. The ex I broke up with ends up getting married in July 2011! Seven months after our break up. Wow. Oh by the way Almost a year and a half later I am still single. In February 2012. I ended up just meeting a new guy July 2011. Through our mutual friends. I thought things were going well with this new guy but he had gone through a huge break up a few months ago. Like I had. We even went on a weekend away when he was on a Business trip in QLD. After that though. Things had died down around the two and a half, three month mark. I gave him his space when we were on this trip and I had to come home early because of work. After not hearing from him two weeks after I was wanting to know what was going on with us and why he was not contacting me as much. He just told me he was busy. Fair enough. After that but. He starts canceling our dates. Around the third time I got really ****ty and had a big go at him about it. We had not seen each other in like a month and he still seemed like he did not want anything to do with me and I just wanted to know what was going on. After about almost a month of this behavior from him I confronted him about it. Wanting a proper explanation. I finally got one and then he dumps me. I was really, really hurt when he ended it. I really thought we had a good vibe with each other when things were good. We got along really well and there was amazing chemistry between us but that still was not good enough for him. It is now February 2012. I am still very pissed off when I think about how this new guy led me on. It is just not fair. We are both in our early 30's. Still can't believe that men can still be like this in their 30's and getting over this ****. Category 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Immaturity is not distinguished by age...It's determined by character. Seriously though, why the hell are you going out with a guy two months out of a huge breakup? are you serious? you're 30 years old and you can't figure out how dumb of an idea that is? Look, people coming out of relationships are all ****ed up. They're like wounded zombies crying sob stories, looking for anyone who will listen and accommodate their vulnerable zombie brain dead like woe is me attitude. You've been through a bad breakup, did it take you two months to get over? Even If this guy was a good guy, he's still going to be more emotional for his ex than you right out of a relationship like that. He's not going to have the sense to judge a relationship fairly, in fact you are more of a rebound or supplement for survival than an actual prospect, regardless of chemistry. I'm not sure why people get all up in arms with amazing chemistry, do women not understand that many men get that kind of vibe from women...mainly because it's women who want to create this perfect and idealist relationship in their minds instead of reality. He didn't lead you on, he was just stupid and out there looking for a distraction...in no way emotionally ready to move on yet, and you with all of your past experience used none of it make a wise and obvious decision. I think you should be upset with yourself more than him, you lead yourself on and chose someone who was not in a state to make any competent decisions and you went with it anyway. There wasn't a chance, you led yourself on, you should have walked away or knew what you were dealing with. You strung yourself along when he was already clearly over it, hopefully next time you use a bit more sense in what you're giving out emotionally with a guy who ultimately isn't that interested in you...the signs were there.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 He didnt lead you on, YOU led you on. Youre a woman, you didnt take the hint of when he was blowing you off? You dont read the subtle cues of cancelled dates, and no contact for 2 weeks? No one is that busy....EVER - not for communication. Especially people over 30. Not everyone is going to be an adult about losing interest in you, its going to happen this way most of the time. Watch the signs next time. It sucks, but thats the way cowards are. 1
2sunny Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 He did allow you to understand... His inaction tells everything his words aren't saying. You didn't take his prompts for what they are. That is YOU not accepting what is really happening. When a man isn't making a TON of effort to SEE you - he's not making you HIS priority! That means he's NOT as interested as you would like him to be!
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