JubeeSoup Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 So, I suppose I can start this torrent of bull**** off with that this relationship is a little over a year long now, that started off as long distance about six months out of our thirteen-and-a-half long shebang. We were thicker than thieves. We did everything together. Everyone thought we were perfect. Everything was pretty perfect. Come January, I was e-mailing a resume to his mother. I checked the sent folder to see if the e-mail actually sent this time or if it ****ed up again that night. Weird thing, though. I saw an e-mail title that said, "hookup." I began to read it. I even asked him what it was about, he said he didn't know. I looked down, and realized this person was from Craigslist according to the title. He shut the laptop and took it away from me no matter how much I told him I needed to see. He said he was embarrassed of his drug habbits (he takes weed for his stage 2 stomach cancer pain). Aain I pressed him. He broke down crying saying that the person was a good friend and took advantage of him at the party (he was apparently raped a bit before he came to see me which I supported him through). After he fell asleep I snuck off with his computer. He was obviously full of bull****. I found out he had been putting ads up on Craislist to meet strangers in his area (to ride bareback with) for car sessions. I looked through his instant messanger logs this time and found that he was also cheating on me with an apparent online ex at the time too. All of this was before he came to see me (which when he did, all of this stopped). I was pissed. I came into his room and questioned him. I slapped him. I was packing my bags. He groveled on his knees, completely naked. He cried. Everything. Well, I decided to take him back because, A) I am from America and visiting Canada. I am from Arkansas and happen to be visiting Ontario. B) I am relying on his mom's kindness. C) I have nowhere to go if I'm kicked out. After this I tried breaking up with him again. He smashed his laptop against a wall in front of me. Our arguments went like this: "I'm sorry that I... Cheated on you." "You act as if you haven't done that before me." "I didn't." I sobbed. He said he felt so guilty he couldn't wait to commit suicide. "Why did you have sex with me last night?" "Your stomach hurt." "That's it? Not because you love me?" I stared at him. "Then what is sex to you then? Does it mean nothing?" I got pissed. "Do you really want to get into this? Do you want to step into this arena? You cheated on me when you could have had me. You planned one-night stands with men you didn't know. And let's not forget, out of the fourteen people you ****ed before me, how many were one night stands?" "That's not the po-" "**** you, you're such a ****ing hypocrite." He cried. I was so tired of this that I let him have me again. I was tired of the constant bickering, him crying, being drilled on why I can't give him a proper chance, if I feel nothing for him, et cetera. Now I have a flight home (March 15th). I have everythin in order, and I just have to wait. I know when I leave he'll try to attempt suicide especially if I break up with him at the airport. I don't know if I would be liable for being sued if he committed suicide and I knew he had tendencies and didn't report it, or what. I know I have to leave, there is nothing to that. I just want to make sure this little jerk doesn't off himself and leave me responsible.
Philosoraptor Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Call the authorities after you end it.. but end it... now. You know what you are dealing with and I'd personally rather stay at a shelter for a few weeks then to put up with someone with such a lack of respect for me.
Author JubeeSoup Posted February 29, 2012 Author Posted February 29, 2012 I wish I could do that. The only thing holding me back is that it'll be pretty difficult getting my airplane stuff to go home in a row if I leave right here and now. It poses a terrible complication with the whole process.
KathyM Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I would suggest you ship your stuff back to where you'll be staying in the States (UPS, post office, train station, whatever), and then get on that plane and leave. You are not responsible for him, nor could you be held responsible if he does something to himself. I doubt he'd do something to himself anyway, he's just using that as a tactic to manipulate you and get you to stay. If you want to call the police and report his suicide threats after you leave, then feel free to do that, but don't let what he says to manipulate you. He is really screwed up, and you don't need that in your life. He cheated on you multiple times. You are putting your life at risk by staying with him. I'm glad you have your ticket to leave.
Dragonsden Posted February 29, 2012 Posted February 29, 2012 I am from Red Deer, Alberta. You are more than welcome to stay with me. Have a house of my own. Sadly its quicker to drive to the US....GET OUT NOW!!!! I was in Red Deer last week on a work call.
Author JubeeSoup Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 This trainwreck has gotten even more ridiculous. Found out he had an entire relationship behind my back and not just a fling with his ex... Then even when he was living in my house, he still was talking to her (which SHE broke up with HIM in October) and stopped when I caught it in January (with a message sent to her that she was a threat because he'll always love her). The ultimate kicker: I can only print off my tickets twenty-four hours before departure. I don't know how I am going to do that. KathyM @ I don't own much anyway, I can easily fit it into a duffle bag. I never get privacy (he doesn't have a job) to pack up and leave quietly. There is a police station not far away that I may be able to get help at in my situation, but that requires me getting all my documents together and such that I had beforehand and sheltering until I can stay with my friend on the 14th in Toronto. Figuring out Transit will be a handful, though ... Fluorescent @ Unfortunately I'm in Ontario (Courtice area) and my airport is in Toronto.
Philosoraptor Posted March 1, 2012 Posted March 1, 2012 Visit the police station and ask that someone come home with you while you pack as you have a reason to fear for yourself and fear that this person could go through with one of his many suicide threats. They will come alone and stick around as long as necessary. They will likely escort him to the hospital for an evaluation.
Author JubeeSoup Posted March 1, 2012 Author Posted March 1, 2012 Been thinking about that and just packing nothing but a dufflebag.
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