TheSageMan Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Hello all, I was hoping to get some last minute pointers before I have to see my ex this coming weekend during a wedding. Long story short...together 3.5 years, broke up a little over a year ago, she started dating someone new, went NC for 7-8 months, began to talk again via email, she still says things about missing me, etc. Right now things couldn't be going any better in my life. Even though I am going stag to the wedding, the lady situation has been excellent to say the least. That being said, it has been over a year since the last time I have met her face to face so it will definitely be a little weird. Should I divulge anything about my personal life? Thanks for the input, and thank you all for the help during one of the hardest times in my life. It really does get better. You just have to take the good with the bad and keep moving forward one day at a time. Cheers!
SimonMas Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I will keep the conversation casual and polite, nothing too personal. If she is interested, she will dig further. Keep her curiosity going and don't reveal too much. You will be fine. Have a good time at the wedding!
Philosoraptor Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I'd agree that you need to keep the conversation professional. Is she still with that "someone new"?
Ajax Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I was in a similar situation a few months ago at a wedding, but in my case it was simply awkward avoidance on her part. But yeah, what do you want out of this encounter? An opportunity to catch up? Reconnect? Show her what she gave up? I would not divulge too much about your personal life. Smile. Make a clever remark if you can think of one. Tell her she looks great and you're happy to see her. Move on.
Author TheSageMan Posted February 27, 2012 Author Posted February 27, 2012 I'll be damned. Even though she brought her new boyfriend she was still the one that broke down when we talked and told me "she felt good to see me and hurt at the same time", but that she was "happy to see me happy" I just felt...well, I guess I felt that I didn't care. I mean I care for her well being, but thats about it. After all this time of dreading the day we met up once again, I now feel like I have moved on to the next step. Thanks peeps! 1
Frank13 Posted February 27, 2012 Posted February 27, 2012 I'll be damned. Even though she brought her new boyfriend she was still the one that broke down when we talked and told me "she felt good to see me and hurt at the same time", but that she was "happy to see me happy" I just felt...well, I guess I felt that I didn't care. I mean I care for her well being, but thats about it. After all this time of dreading the day we met up once again, I now feel like I have moved on to the next step. Do you think you felt like you didn't care because she stroked your ego? Had she ignored you or been kissing and hanging on her boyfriend, do you think you would have felt different? Either way, I am glad you feel like you are moving on.
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