Is there actually a guide out there? Coming up with our own guides?

[Love_sick_me]

I pretty much gave up on getting back together with my ex, but I'm still really curious about these guides out there. Are there any out there actually work? Have there been people who actually got their exes back using a guide? I wonder why don't we have a sticky of these "guides" in the forum...I'm also wondering how reliable these guides are.

 

I haven't felt the need to actually purchase one. I guess I'm not "in love" with my ex enough as these selling pitches would say. I had a chance to get a few for free. It seems like these guides out there can be broken down into a few common themes.

1. NC/LC

2. Improve your appearance

3. Improve your confidence

4. Know that you want your ex back

5. Initiate contact/your ex contact you after a few weeks- always emphasize on being cheerful and happy

6. First meeting-more cheerful and happy without giving in too fast

7. More meetings

8. Back together?

 

There are a few that placed more significance on the pushing and pulling. I think a good advice I read was making sure your reconciliation is in no way a continuation of your old relationship as people often would just go back to the same cycle again and again (which is backed up by a few psychology paper I read). I also read about some relationship "expert" saying that NC/LC might not work, and it will just allow your ex to forget you quicker. I guess the point is to get over the relationship and your ugly impression of yourself.

 

I'm posting just as a discussion to see if anyone has purchased any and if these tips actually worked. Maybe they're just asking you to fork over your money for them, but hey who knows? I just feel that everyone is different, thus every relationship is different, so how can we actually put together a "guide"? and if our collective minds can work together and come up with something helpful, then why don't we do it here?

[leoc1973]

I really like this post. I was tempted to buy one when my ex dumped me but I felt as if I would fall prey to these guys who promise they work with 90% chance and all that.

 

I guess when someone dumps you because you are not what they would consider a "keeper" then these manuals might work because the dumper is probably dying for a reason to take you back anyway. I think things like gigs or something there is no getting them back until they are ready.

 

I myself didn't buy the book but I did a lot of research online and did the lose weight take a class act confident and be fun while you are around them but it seemed like she was taking her time. What worked for me was dating a new girl.(she came back the next day) Actually with every girl I had ever dated and broke up with the thing that always seemed to bring them back is a new girl. Every time!

 

It really would be nice to know if any of them really work just for fun!

[wilsonx]

I'll write one =)

[Million.to.1]

I'll write one =)

 

Can you call it Wilson's Ex?

[wilsonx]

There's a story behind that too... a BIG one that happened the past 2 days, stay tuned for it to unfold =)

[Million.to.1]

There's a story behind that too... a BIG one that happened the past 2 days, stay tuned for it to unfold =)

 

I'm on the edge of my seat.

[Philosoraptor]

There is no guide to healing or getting your ex back as each situation is different. Everyone has their own path to healing but it generally includes finding peace and forgiveness with every part of the past relationship and breakup. Getting back together takes looking internally at all of the issues you presented to the past relationship, and correcting them. If you ex does the same, and you both want to try again... then it is possible for it to work.

 

I hear there are witch doctors who can take care of everything for you... but what I wrote above is free.

[leoc1973]

Come on wilson spill it! I am really curious now.

[Love_sick_me]

I'm really just curious about this. I think this is more of an "interest" post than anything else. I'm really excited to see what Wilson has to offer

[chados]

well the thing is, they will most likely contact you. and yes they could want you back but probably for the wrong reasons, which they might not realize at that point. i mean, you ask "does it work?" when the question should be, does she love me after ive been ignoring her and improved myself..

 

 

and the answer to that question is no.. she could take you back because shes jealous, or by feeling sad because you went NC and talking to other girls.

the thing is, if this happens, she will not understand it herself. she belives that she wants you until it hits her again...

 

 

although they have some good points. but honestly i really think you should stay away and let her make the decision. do not contact